Preparing for marriage while planning a wedding

The most popular engagement month is December, and the most popular wedding month is June, according to the 2010 Real Weddings Survey. So even though not a lot of people may be tying the knot right now, more wedding planning takes place this time of year than at any other.

But as engaged couples get to know their future in-laws, pick reception colors, select their wedding wardrobes and sample cake, more is going on — at least there should be, according to some who know wedding planning best.

Planning for a wedding is often the first major project that a couple takes on together, and the patterns established throughout the process will continue into the marriage.

“There are so many things that you have to address when you’re planning a wedding that are similar to things that you’re going to address throughout your marriage,” said Ann Peterson, author of “Your LDS Wedding Planner.” “If you can find a way of dealing with them in your wedding planning, how much better off will your marriage be?”

The wedding planning process gives participants the “first opportunity of seeing how you brainstorm, how you compromise, how you listen, how you negotiate, how you keep a sense of humor and sense of respect and love,” psychologist Liz Hale said.

Communication

Learning to communicate effectively, navigate family relationships, budget finances and adapt to constantly changing circumstances are all areas that an engaged couple may experience that, with a little extra attention, could help strengthen the marriage before it even happens.

“I think marriage has become a sort of an amorphous concept for people,” said Meg Keene, author of “A Practical Wedding” and creator of apracticalwedding.com. People may know they want to get married, she said, but they could be unsure of what marriage means to them or their partner, and it’s important for them to discuss it.

She recommended that for every hour a couple spends going over wedding plans, they spend an hour talking about how they want to set up their marriage, including areas such as finances, family and faith.

“Make sure that you ask questions even when you think you know the answer,” Keene said. “You think that you know exactly how your future spouse feels about finance or prayer or whatever, and then when you really sit down and start to have that conversation, you often find out surprising things, and those are the really interesting things that are important to know.”

Dreams come alive at bridal fair

Dreams come alive at bridal fair

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Dreams come alive at bridal fair

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Tom Joyce

Staff Reporter

The institution of marriage is alive and well in this area, judging by the reception for an annual bridal fair in downtown Mount Airy.

For around five hours Saturday, Old North State Winery was transformed into a veritable smorgasbord of products, services and ideas — all designed to provide everything a couple needs to chart a course toward marital bliss.

About 35 brides-to-be were on hand to check out what some 20 vendors had to offer in the way of clothing, food, photography, music, makeup, limo and other transportation, printing, flowers, honeymoon getaways and more. One special attraction was a fashion show showcasing all types of wedding attire, from bridesmaids’ dresses to flowing wedding gowns.

Kaela Hodges of Mount Airy and her fiancé, James Rodgers of Pilot Mountain, were among the couples who visited various vendor stations set up on multiple floors of the winery. It served as home base for the event that also encompassed other local businesses.

“There is a good mix,” Hodges said of the various displays she and Rodgers encountered along the way.

“It’s nice to see some local vendors,” she added of the wide array of wedding services and products to be found in the greater Mount Airy area as opposed to having to travel to out-of-town locations such as Greensboro.

Hodges and Rodgers are planning a “rustic” wedding on June 22, 2013. They attended Saturday’s bridal fair mainly to get information about wedding photographers, but also were able to integrate other items that will help with the big day.

“Everything we need,” Hodges said.

Meanwhile, Misty Lynch, a resident of the King area who attended Saturday’s event with her mother, Shirley Lynch, had one major objective in mind: “Good ideas!”

Lynch said the fair offered “a chance to see what other girls are doing and kind of just talk about the wedding — see what things are available in this area.”

As she strolled through the first floor of the winery carrying an armful of brochures and other materials, Lynch mentioned that she had booked a local photographer for her wedding to Matthew Brozovich scheduled on May 12.

“It has everything,” the out-of-town visitor said of the bridal fair and her appreciation for having access to an array of vendors all under one roof. Lynch also mentioned how it catered to weddings of all types, from the “do-it-yourself” variety all the way up to the ultra-lavish.

“This venue here is so nice,” Lynch added of Old North State Winery and her general fondness for the Mount Airy vicinity — including its wedding infrastructure.

Wedding Spending

Saturday’s bridal fair came one day after two websites dedicated to weddings released the results of a survey on the costs of tying the knot, based on responses from nearly 18,000 U.S. brides who were married in 2011. It shows that couples and/or their family members will spend about $27,000 on weddings, not including the honeymoon.

While that level of splurging might not reflect that of local couples, weddings continue to command special consideration where the purse strings are concerned despite a tough economy, several persons at Saturday’s fair said.

“I think people are smarter with their money, but still willing to go all-out,” said Jenna Claxton-Puckett, coordinator for the fair. “They still want to have that lavish event.”

An example of that was evident at one eye-catching display Saturday manned by personnel of the Primland resort in Patrick County, Va. Although it long has been known as a hunting resort spanning some 12,000 acres in Claudville and Meadows of Dan, Primland is increasingly becoming a wedding/honeymoon destination, according to Dana Puckett, its in-house group sales manager.

The resort offers luxury accommodations in a remote setting, including a 26-room lodge with an observatory, an indoor pool, gourmet food and packages available for both weddings, receptions and honeymoons.

Puckett mentioned a wedding booked there next weekend which will include the men playing golf and riding all-terrain vehicles through the surrounding countryside during the day, while the women in the party enjoy the resort’s full-service spa facilities.

“Everybody’s been kind of interested,” she said while handing out informational packets on the resort. As Puckett did so, a video showcasing its amenities played on a high-definition television screen behind her.

Closer to home, most people would not see a relationship between Mount Airy Museum of Regional History and weddings. But Nancy Davis, a representative of the facility who also was among Saturday’s exhibitors, said it hosts about 20 such marriage-related events each year.

Museum facilities including a courtyard, annex and conference room can be booked for receptions or wedding ceremonies.

“We’ve had quite a few stop by and ask about what we are renting,” Davis reported.

Meanwhile, clothing is always a key consideration for a wedding, and a vendor station manned by Tommy Poole of F. Rees Clothing in Mount Airy seemed to be one of the key stops Saturday. “We have had a good response,” Poole said.

He added that spring is a busy season for F. Rees — not only because of weddings, but high school proms — and the store tries to prepare accordingly.

“We have hundreds and hundreds of tuxedos,” Poole said.

Puckett-Claxton, the fair coordinator, indicated that Saturday’s event was successful for all concerned.

“We’re definitely pleased with the turnout.”

Reach Tom Joyce at 719-1924 or tjoyce@heartlandpublications.com.

Pippa Middleton’s ski trek raises £12000 to aid children

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Katie Nicholl

20:53 EST, 24 March 2012

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07:04 EST, 25 March 2012

Gruelling experience: Pippa Middleton completed her Swedish challenge in just over seven hours

Gruelling experience: Pippa Middleton completed her Swedish challenge in just over seven hours

She proved herself more than a pretty behind by completing a 56-mile cross-country skiing course – now Pippa Middleton has revealed she and brother James raised £12,000 for charity.

The professional party planner sent a round-robin email to her friends after finishing her Swedish challenge in seven hours 13 minutes 36 seconds – and securing an impressive 412th place out of 15,800 racers

She wrote: ‘We made it! James and I just wanted to say a huge thank you for your incredible support for our cross-country ski challenge in Sweden.

‘We are truly grateful and appreciate the kindness and generosity you have all shown.

‘It was one of the best sporting adventures we have both participated in and we couldn’t have enjoyed it more.’

Entrepreneur James, 23, finished 26 minutes ahead of Pippa as they raised money for the Magic Breakfast charity, which provides free breakfasts to poverty-stricken children.

Pippa, 28, pictured left in the event, also told how eating a breakfast of porridge helped them complete the race.

‘Incidentally, it was porridge that morning at 6am that helped us make it to the finish line so we couldn’t be bigger fans of a hearty breakfast!’ she said.

Family ties: James Middleton, pictured ahead of his sister Kate's wedding, joined Pippa on the course

Family ties: James Middleton, pictured ahead of his sister Kate’s wedding, joined Pippa on the course

The Duchess of Cambridge’s younger siblings are now keen to sponsor friends in similar events. ‘Thank you so much again and please let us know if any of you are doing any charity challenges in the future – we would love to support you,’ Pippa added.

Singer Bryan Ferry has finally chosen a belated wedding gift for his new wife Amanda Sheppard – some pop art.

‘Bryan took Amanda to Gilbert and George’s London Pictures exhibition at the White Cube gallery in Bermondsey, South London,’ says a friend.

‘They met the artists and congratulated them on the show and Amanda set her heart on one of the small pictures which cost £40,000. Bryan didn’t buy it then, but promised that a London picture would take pride of place in their home soon. He’s really been spoiling her since their wedding.’

Bryan, 66, and Amanda, 29, wed in a secret ceremony in January on the Turks and Caicos Islands.

As the first anniversary of William and Kate’s wedding approaches, the Middletons’ online party business has recruited a ‘Wedding Fairy’ to help make everyone’s big day as magical.

The Party Pieces website, run by Kate’s mother Carole, now offers a host of ‘wedding theme ideas and inspiration’.

Suggestions include investing in ‘an individual mood board’ – something the Duchess of Cambridge found helpful while planning her nuptials.

And just to make sure all bases are covered, Party Pieces adds that ‘Cool Britannia styling is bang-on trend and great fun with the Diamond Jubilee just around the corner’. Bottoms up!

Here’s what other readers have said. Why not add your thoughts,
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Intellegent, educated, poised, vivacious, beautiful and a successful business woman. The worlds most eligable bachelorett!

ENOUGH ABOUT THIS WOMAN AND HER REAR END!!!! She has no rear end – it’s flat as a pancake!!! At this point she’s probably sick of reading about it.

Getting fed up of hearing about her and her bum now!!

Did William made mistake choosing her sister instead of her.?

She’s intelligent, strong, beautiful and graceful. If her personality matches then she could very likely be the perfect woman!

So, how much did the flights, accomodation, food, equipment etc. cost for these two to do that? Yes, that’s right, a lot more than £12,000! Another PR stunt from the family Middleton.

Pippa finished in 7430th place of 15800 not 413th place. She did place 413th of 1736 women and her time was impressive for a first timer. But please do not insult all those who actually finished well before her.

To begin with : Well done Pippa!
Middleton, Pippa (GBR)
Plac. 413 of the women in the competition
Plac. 7450 of it all.
Time 07:13:36
source : vasaloppet.se
I like facts and this is the real deal not 412 of it all.

Pippa was raising money for a charity for British children who are too poor to have breakfast. This underlines the great divide between the rich and the poor in Britain, where the royals and other lords actually own – and prosper from – one third of the country. The rest of the country is in the hands of the 1%. About time they all – not just Pippa – got off their derrières and either did loads of charity work (more than Waity, for example) or made sure that they gave back in some way. The current state of the nation is a disgrace.

Well done, but the death-stare eyes scare the hell out of me.

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Amanda Wakeley Wedding Dresses at International Bridal Fair

Before the first bride walks down the aisle in a 2013 Amanda Wakeley Sposa silhouette, the world’s top wedding wear retailers at at international bridal fair in London’s White Gallery will get an up close look at gowns that walk a fine line between contemporary and classic.

Offering refined romance to celebrate a timeless love, Wakeley’s wedding dresses– fashioned form such fabrics as double satin, matt silk georgette and the designer’s signature silk-cady– seduce the sense of sight with their streamlined simplicity, while embellishments of Swarovski crystal, graphic deco and ribbon beading add a touch of drama to the design.

Since launching her signature label in 1990, Amanda Wakeley has been at the forefront of British fashion. The recipient of an OBE for her service in the world of style, over the years Wakeley’s frocks have found favor with Kate Winslet, Helen Mirren and Scarlett Johansson as well as The Duchess of Cambridge and the late Diana, Princess of Wales.

Taking place May 20 – 22, 2012 in Battersea Park, the international bridal design fair will feature the couture creations of more than 40 noted designers, including Yolan Cris, Stephanie Allin, Cymbeline and Johanna Hehir.

For more information regarding Amanda Wakeley:

  • visit www.amandawakeley.com

For more information regarding the international bridal fair at White Gallery:

  • visit www.whitegallery.com

Photo courtesy White Gallery

Off-White Bridal Show Features Unique Wedding Ideas

Posted on: 9:17 am, March 25, 2012, by Angela Hutti

(KTVI) Getting married but want to hold an event with some non-traditional flair? Then the Off-White Wedding Show is for you.  Founded by Brea Mcanally, owner of Brea Photography, and her husband, Off White is focused on unique, eco-friendly, low-stress weddings.

The show was held Sunday at Third Degree Glass Factory from 11am to 4pm, but the Off-White Wedding website has info and ideas all year long.

Carnival of colours for a joyful day

The couple had the wedding and the reception at the Edmonton Country Club. The occasion was a family affair that incorporated the combined talents and efforts of parents, grandparents, aunts, uncles, brothers, nieces, nephews and cousins.

Sarah’s dad Pat, for instance, a chef and baker in a former incarnation, made a ribbon cake and dozens of cake pops, each one decorated and dipped in chocolate. Her brothers and husband-to-be took on construction projects, building a photo booth, an archway, a stand for the cake pops and even a “ticket booth” for the cards.

Each guest received a homemade candy apple with a thank-you tag attached. There was a candy table, its centrepiece a cotton candy machine – a wedding present from the bride’s parents – that proved to be a particular crowd favourite.

Everyone stayed late and danced well into the evening, including the bride’s eighty something grandparents.

Sarah says her favourite part of the day – well, next to the ceremony, of course – was being able to spend time with the guests after dinner, and catch up with family who came from out of town.

The whole day went smoothly, she says, even when it didn’t. She was blissfully unaware until later, for instance, that the archway blew off the balcony minutes before the ceremony because so many people rushed to rescue it and put it back where it belonged. And the photo of her on the couch surrounded by crying kids? Well, that’s what happens when you have six kids under six in the wedding party.

“I think anything that went ‘differently’ was fun and very cute and we just made the best of it,” she says.

“The most important thing is that I got to marry my best friend. He’s not afraid to be himself around me, and vice versa. In public, you would never know that he is loud and likes to joke around. He’s very quiet in public, and I am too. But when it’s just us, he’s crazy. He makes me laugh, and keeps me relaxed.

“We are each other’s best friend and I like that that’s the way our relationship started – as friends.”

Making choices

First dance song: Peter Gabriel’s Book of Love

Wedding reception venue: Edmonton Country Club

Number of guests: 100

Budget: $15,000

Wedding colours: Pink, red, yellow, orange

Honeymoon: Honolulu, Hawaii

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Victoria Beckham Struggled with Kate Middleton, Prince William Wedding Fashion!

In a recent interview, Victoria Beckham admits that finding the right outfit for Kate Middleton and Prince William’s wedding was a complete pain. The singer, turned fashion designer, blamed being pregnant with Harper Seven as her ‘biggest’ obstacle.

Victoria Beckham came right out and said what was going through her head as she and her husband David were invited to the royal wedding:

First, obviously, we were very, very excited. But what do you wear to the biggest wedding ever—when you’re enormously pregnant?

Luckily, Posh Spice figured out how to ‘glam up’ her pregnant figure. Victoria wore a navy dress of her own design, some Louboutin heels, and a pillbox hat.

Is it possible that Victoria Beckham would have skipped out on Kate and William’s wedding if she didn’t find the right outfit? Highly doubtful. Thankfully, she had the wits to design something comfortable yet fitting for last year’s high-profile royal wedding.

Perhaps this is the kind of pressure that Beckham feels all the time. She seems to worry constantly about what people see her wear. Perhaps she is worried if she looks dumpy, no one will buy any of her clothes. This is probably the fear that she had when invited to such a prestigious event. The thing that Victoria forgot was that everyone was looking at the bride’s dress, and not at her.

A beautiful plan

“You look beautiful!” Certainly, that’s one of the most common utterances of wedding guests. So common, in fact, it seems as if beauty comes naturally to every bride.

Love’s glow may be a force of nature, but experts stress that a stunning bridal look is due to a carefully planned pre-wedding beauty regimen. The best plan starts months before the event and ends with the admiring looks of your groom and guests.

6 months out
Book the pros
If you don’t have a regular hair stylist that you love, and if you think you could use a professional hand to apply your make-up, start asking friends whose look you like for recommendations, suggested Vince Smith, owner of The Vince South Hair Experience in New York.

Selecting a dress and headpiece also are early priorities, and you should book a ‘trial’ makeup application as soon as you know what you’ll be wearing, Smith advised.

“Choosing photos from magazines or googling hair and makeup styles [you like] and giving them to the stylist will help them understand what your vision is,” explained makeup artist Ana Baidet, who’s based in Key Largo, Fla.

If you’re planning on a tan for the wedding, apply sunless tanning lotion on your face and body, so that the professional knows how to accent the right skin tone, added Nikki Robinson, CEO of Gloss and Glam, a hair and beauty service in New York.

Should you be dissatisfied with the trial run, there’s still time to book another. Ideally, “hair and makeup should be done on the same day, so you can see the total look,” Baidet said.

Launch healthy habits
Exercise, a nutritious diet and sleep are beauty treatments you give yourself, and the longer these habits are maintained, the better the effects, noted Dr. Tanya Kormeili, a Santa Monica dermatologist.

3 to 4 months out
Establish a cleansing ritual
It’s the mundane daily routine of cleansing your face, gently exfoliating and moisturizing with SPF that primes skin to be at its peak.

Find a group of products that accomplish these basic tasks and are geared to your skin type — and then stick to them, advised Kormeili. And you’ll avoid bad reactions (allergic or otherwise) which could be caused from introducing new products right before the wedding.

Treat special problems
If you suffer from skin imperfections caused by rosacea, sun damage or broken blood vessels, a dermatologist can usually remedy the situation with laser or other treatments, said Kormeili. But the skin takes time to repair and heal, and some treatments must be administered over a period of months. That’s why seeing a dermatologist at least four months or so in advance of the date is necessary, she added.

It’s also possible to inject pimples with cortisone to rid them quickly, but try the treatment in advance of the days just preceding the wedding, Kormeili advised.

1 month to 2 weeks out
Trim your tresses
“Most brides grow their hair for their wedding, so they have more options for hairstyles,” Smith said. “This is great, but definitely get a trim within the month before your wedding. Split ends make your gorgeous up-do look a little frizzy, and the hair doesn’t hold the curl.

1 week out
Allow recovery time
“Do not schedule a facial close to your wedding; a week or more is safer if your skin needs some recovery time,” advised Liz Washer, a Northampton, Mass., makeup artist. And, facial waxing can leave redness and prevent make-up from adhering well for the days immediately after the treatment, Washer added.

1 day out
Relax with mani/pedi
The day before the event is perfect for relaxing in the salon. “This way you are not in a rush to dry your nails, but you don’t have enough time to mess them up,” Robinson added.

I’ve picked my wedding dress, song, bridesmaids, church, cake …now I just …

The 22-year-old has selected the venue and picked out her 1,100 dream dress.

She has also chosen the song that will play as she walks down the aisle and
finalised a menu her guests will be served.

But there is one thing missing from her big day the groom.

She is one of a growing group of women called the Single Bridezillas, who have
planned their weddings down to the last tea light, despite the fact they
don’t even have a boyfriend.

Rearna, who is reading English Literature at university, said: “Every girl
grows up dreaming of their wedding day, fantasising about how they will look
and whether their mum will cry.

“I’m just taking it one step further than most and making those dreams a
reality.”

Rearna was bitten by the bridal bug last year when she visited St
Bartholomew’s Church near where she studies in Brighton.

She said: “After a string of failed relationships, I used to be the type of
girl who couldn’t think of anything worse than getting married.

“But when, last year, I went inside that church I had a life-changing moment.”

Taking in the beautiful architecture, long aisle and stunning stain glass
windows Rearna was “blown away” by the place.

Rearna Ackord with bridesmaids Leah and Olivia

She said: “It was stunning. All of a sudden I could see myself in a gorgeous
white dress, walking down the aisle with all my friends and family looking
on proudly.

“In that moment I decided I had to get married and started planning
straight away. I wanted to put my name on the wedding waiting list there and
then.”

Within minutes of returning home, Rearna decided both her dad Des, 54, and
brother Landon, 19, would walk her down the aisle to the song A Case Of You
by James Blake.

She said: “It’s such a beautiful song, when I heard it on the radio I
instantly said ‘That’s it’.”

Rearna Ackord

Ever since her visit to the church ten months ago, Rearna is “like a woman
possessed.”

Despite her friends mocking her sudden obsession with her fantasy wedding,
Rearna hasn’t stopped giving them details of her big day.

She admitted: “My friends laugh at me. They couldn’t understand when I first
told them I’d started to plan a wedding without a boyfriend.

“Suddenly, bridal shops and wedding magazines became interesting.

“Looking through them for ideas, my mind raced with thoughts of invites,
flowers and, of course, the dress.”

Rearna Ackord

Rearna was in Uckfield, East Sussex, for a day when she saw an ivory dress on
a mannequin in the window of Fross Wedding Collections.

She said: “I stopped in my tracks. I’d seen dresses I liked in the magazines
but nothing compared to this.

“I knew straight away it was the dress I was going to get married in and
booked an appointment for later that day to try it on.

“My friend Leah Butson she’s a student too and I both had tears in our
eyes as I twirled in front of the mirror with the circular train trailing
behind me. It was the stuff of dreams.”

Returning home that night, unable to stop thinking about her dream dress,
Rearna began to panic that the dress would sell out before she had the funds
to buy it.

Rearna is looking for Mr Right

She said: “I just know how upset I’ll be if I finally saved up the money only
to find out it’s gone. The only way is to put down a deposit of 150, so I’m
going to have to save so I can be safe in the knowledge it’s mine.

“I go in to try it on at least once a month and because I’ve been doing it for
the past seven months shop owner knows me by name.

“I’ve even considered taking out a loan to cover the 1,100 to put my mind at
rest.”

Rearna now visits the church every month to visualise her big day and measure
up to work out how many flowers she will need.

She explained: “I sit and picture how it will look. I’ve planned to have the
whole interior lit up with a thousand tea light candles and the pews to be
draped with off-white silk. I love animals, so I’ve asked my best friend if
her dogs can be involved. They’re going to be dressed in little suits and
dresses and will accompany the bridesmaids down the aisle.

Rearna Ackord on Brighton beach

“My friend Kirsty Naunton makes amazing cakes so I instantly got her on the
phone to discuss what I wanted.

“The chosen cake is three tiers with white icing and diamante-style
decorations.”

To make sure her dream wedding will not become a distant fantasy, Rearna has
made a pact with a close friend, 23-year-old Jonny Gregson, that if neither
is married by the age of 30, they’ll tie the knot.

She said: “Age 28 is my goal so I have a few years to find someone, finalise
my plans and save the 30,000 I need.”

Although she’s missing a groom, Rearna couldn’t wait to break the news to
those who make up the rest of the bridal party.

Best friends Olivia Jones, 21, Leah, 22, Kirsty Naunton, 22, and Lil Griffin,
21, will all be bridesmaids.

She said: “Although they think I’m mad, they’re all excited.

“I have already taken them to the shop to show them the pink dresses they’ll
be wearing.”

With the ceremony planned in fine detail, Rearna will be taking her guests to
the nearby beach for the reception in a giant marquee.

She said: “Living in Brighton, I’ve decided to have a party on the beach.

“Watching the sun set with my family and friends and new husband will be so
amazing.”

The single bride-to-be does not want to leave any part unplanned so Rearna has
recently finalised her food menu.

She said: “My grandma Daisy Ackord is Jamaican and she makes the best food
I’ve ever tasted, so she’s in charge of catering for my big day. I’m going
to have a West Indian menu consisting of jerk chicken, specialty rice and
peas, ackee and saltfish and special Jamaican cakes for dessert.”

Rearna and her gran have worked out the Caribbean feast will cost 50 a head.
And for the music, she will hire a jazz-funk band.

She said: “I come from a very musical family and we’re all big jazz fans so
I’ve been keeping an eye out for one that can cater for weddings.”

Every time someone mentions getting married, Rearna always tries to slip in a
mention of St Bartholomew’s.

The singleton even spoke to someone who had been married at the venue. When
they revealed they had trouble with parking she immediately factored in
plans to have minibuses bring guests to the venue.

Despite living on her student loan, Rearna is already trying to save the
30,000 she’s worked out she needs for her big day.

She said: “The first thing I’m going to spend my first proper pay cheque on is
my wedding dress.

“I’m completely obsessed with it and can’t wait to have it hung in my wardrobe
instead of in a shop window.”

But Rearna is under no illusions she knows the detail with which she has
planned her big day could send a new boyfriend running a mile.

She said: “When I do meet someone I’ll be keeping these plans firmly under
wraps until I have a ring on my finger…”

I Do, I Do: Lindsay Brinser + Jason Swoap

Everything about Lindsay Brinser’s wedding experience felt magical — from the Disney World proposal to the fairy tale shower to her Cinderella-inspired wedding gown. She wouldn’t have had it any other way.

“ ‘Dreams do come true’ was our wedding theme,” said vivacious Lindsay, the youngest daughter of Robin and David Brinser of Chesterfield. “I have two older sisters, and Jason has two younger brothers,” she pointed out, which may explain some of the chemistry and ease that flow between the couple.

But then, these two have known each other since middle school. “Ninth grade at Clover Hill High is when we really got to know each other,” said Jason, the son of Valerie and Henry Swoap. Now a manager at Dominion Capital Mortgage in Richmond, Jason recalled their romantic beginning: “We were both involved with a ‘Romeo and Juliet’ project. I was the director — and Lindsay was Juliet. We joked and sparked off one another.”

“We had fun!” recalled Lindsay, who graduated from VCU with both an undergraduate degree and a Master of Teaching degree and is now a Montessori teacher in Chesterfield. “Then a group of us went to the first Harry Potter film on Dec. 1, 2001.” Date number two was to Kohl’s, dropping off clothes for kids during their Christmas drive.

“Our mothers chauffeured us everywhere,” recalled Lindsay. “We were together from then on and never had any breaks or anything. In our junior year we knew we would be together forever.”

Jason graduated from VCU, and after eight years of dating, proposed on May 23, 2009. “Earlier I had purchased an engagement ring and had gone to her father for his blessing — Lindsay and her mother are very close and I didn’t know if she could keep a secret,” he explained, laughing. “We were heading for a cruise and stopping off first in Disney World.”

“Even though the day had been rainy, he convinced me to go to Cinderella’s castle for the fireworks,” said Lindsay, who, on a strong hunch, had earlier secretly searched Jason’s luggage for an engagement ring.

Coming up empty-handed, she decided instead to just enjoy the vacation.
Embraced by the warm Florida night, the Magic Kingdom crowd lifted their eyes to the skies. Fireworks exploded and “When You Wish Upon a Star” began to play. Jason could not have picked a more perfect moment.

“I was holding her, and I pulled out the ring,” he said.

“It was a complete surprise,” swore Lindsay. “It felt very private, just us!”

Afterwards they ran to the shuttle and called home. “I always wanted a Christmas wedding. My mother did everything to make it wonderful,” said Lindsay.

On Dec. 3, 2011, Lindsay’s dream came true. She and Jason stood before Pastor Michael Sepulveda, their youth minister from Tomahawk Baptist Church, who married them in the Asbury United Methodist Church, where Lindsay’s late grandfather Foster Brinser had worshipped and where grandmother Ersell Brinser is still a member.

At the Richmond Marriott Downtown, 190 guests were treated to more magic as the newlyweds cut into a cake topped with figurines of another happy couple — Mickey and Minnie Mouse.

Guests danced and partied until midnight — when Cinderella and her handsome prince departed. Their honeymoon in Saint Lucia followed — and life has been pure magic ever since.