Consumer 10 Report | Insurance for big wedding can ease your mind

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Kurt Ludlow

WBNS-10TV

Sunday May 13, 2012 11:06 AM

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For the bride- and groom-to-be, few things are worse than not being able to say “I do” in the
manner planned — especially if considerable time and money have gone into arranging the big
day.

One nomination for a worse thing: saying “I didn’t” — as in “I didn’t buy wedding insurance.”
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Most of us insure our homes, our vehicles and, if we have spouses or kids, our very lives, but
relatively few of us guard against financial threats to the most-expensive events in our lives —
weddings included.

Several insurance companies offer wedding policies that can cover just about everything
imaginable — notwithstanding deductions and liability limits.

A lost wedding ring? Sure. A photographer who doesn’t show up on time? Yep. A bankrupt caterer,
a dropped wedding cake or spoiled food that sickens guests at the reception? Absolutely — provided
that the couple got the right coverage.

Policies start at about $160. Coverage for a typical wedding would range from $300 to $400 — not
too bad given that, last year, the average U.S. wedding cost $25,631, according to the Wedding
Report, an industry research firm.

The Travelers Cos., one of the nation’s largest property-and-casualty insurers, recently
analyzed its 2011 claims to determine where nuptials tend to go awry. A plurality of the claims —
almost one-third — dealt with vendors or venues.

Central Ohioans got a firsthand look at what can go wrong two weeks ago when Alan Ray Bridal, an
established retailer on the Northwest Side, went out of business without warning customers.

“Soon-to-be newlyweds have a significant amount of money on the line, and a vendor’s ‘Going out
of Business’ sign can be far worse than rain on their wedding day,” the Better Business Bureau said
in a consumer advisory. “Wedding insurance can provide peace of mind.”

Fair enough, but does
every couple need it?

“If you’re just going to have a very small wedding, no,” said Margot O’Dell, owner of O’Dell
Insurance in Gahanna. “But, if you’re going to have an elaborate wedding — and I’ve seen and read
about many of these weddings — then, yes, definitely, because it’s a small price to pay.”

The BBB advises anyone considering such a policy to keep a few things in mind:

• Shop for insurance before paying any deposits to ensure that all wedding-related expenses are
covered.

• Compare policies side by side, paying close attention to the fine print.

• Make sure the insurance company you select is licensed to do business in the state where the
ceremony will take place.

• Check whether some things might be covered by existing insurance policies — homeowners,
renters, auto, liability, etc. — or even through your credit-card company if you charge a product
or service.

• Keep meticulous records — and all receipts — to justify reimbursements.

kurt.ludlow@10tv.com

Pictures from various extravagant weddings in the Tri-State (Provided)

CINCINNATI – Join us Sunday at 11p.m. for an over the top affair

We all saw Kate marry her prince and Kim marry Kris. And the Real Housewives fans saw the stops pulled out for Pandora’s lavish Beverly Hills extravaganza.

Weddings are going Hollywood. We’re talking no budget, no limit, couples are pulling out the stops and it’s happening right here in the Tri-State.

Dora Manuel and Cecilia Rose are two of the hottest event planners in the city. Brides say if you want to make your special day an over the top affair, you hire them.

Their favorite venues: The Hall of Mirrors at the Hilton Netherland Plaza for an elegant indoor event and The Greenacres Art Center in Indian Hill for an outdoor affair.

The Greenacres Art Center is where Rachel and Kyle Smith had their dream wedding.

“All the candles were lit, all the flowers had bloomed and it was just beautiful, it was a sight to see, it was magnificent. After six months of finally seeing your vision come to life it was just an awh moment. This is what I’ve been working so hard for,” they said.

Cecilia helped create a rustic romance theme for Rachael. There were three stages to the Smith’s wedding- the ceremony, the cocktail hour and the reception. Cecilia says moving rooms and spaces can create the element of surprise for the guests.

“That gets the big ta da, that gets the wow, that gets that ahhhh,” said Rose.

The Smith’s day was bursting with personal touches and details, from the violins playing at the ceremony to their favorite flowers at the reception.

One of the couples favorite:

“About 11 o’clock when everyone had been dancing, sweating we had the caters bring back out little slider cheeseburgers, coneys, flavored popcorn and then Graeter’s ice cream because we absolutely love Graeter’s ice cream,” said Rachel.

From the cake and flowers down to the favors and linens, it’s all about the details.

Dora and Cecilia say the lighting is the icing on the cake.

If they want to blow something out, blow it out in lighting,” said Cecilia.

“You can transform a room with lighting, you can make a room that’s pink completely painted red,” explained Dora.

Dora loves to add dimension by varying table sizes and switching-up the chairs.

These specialists look to the east and west coasts to find the next big things.

“What’s coming in as is really that grander opulence, that lush full, flowers and textures and patterns mixing patterns,” said Cecilia.

At the end of the night, when the lights go out on the dance floor, brides hope their wedding was a memorable one.

“We really wanted the guests to feel like they were a part of our big day and remember it always,” said Rachel.

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Band, baaja, designer

Getting top fash frat names to ‘design’ a wedding and decide everything from the decor to the menus is the latest trend for getting married in style.

The business of band, baaja, baaraat just became more chic. With opulent weddings moving beyond the realm of garrulous Punjabis, the idea of the big, fat Indian wedding has become fancier. And adding style to the big ticket shaadis are our very own fashion designers.
Designer touch at a premium
From Tarun Tahiliani to Rocky S, and Abu Jani-Sandeep Khosla to Rohit Bal, most fash frat biggies are not shying away from lending their creative and aesthetic expertise to those looking for a spectacular wedding – be it the invites, the decor, the menu or even the style of the floral arrangement, they’re ready to add a designer touch to everything. But, of course, for a certain premium price.
A unified look
Says designer Tarun Tahiliani, “By roping in a designer, one can ensure that the wedding has an aesthetically unified look. Designers are used to working with textile, colours, looks, and managing all the aesthetics together. Hence, they are able to pull off something like this well… With a designer’s eye, the entire look of the wedding can be coordinated very well.” Tahiliani, who is very selective about the weddings he designs, says that when he takes on a project, he works specifically on the ‘aesthetics’ only. So, besides the clothes, he works on the “setting, flowers, lighting, ambience, et al.” Adds the designer, “You create a whole mood board for the client, and when I’m doing it, I want to make sure it’s spectacular. Therefore, I only do a couple of such projects a year. And I only do these in India, preferably in Delhi, though I also recently did an amazing wedding in Hyderabad.”
Designer Rocky S, who started a wedding design company recently, adds, “From the invites to the catering, the looks, decor, trousseau, Bollywood attendance, floral decor, menus, even the tissue paper being used, I’ll put all of it together in my signature style. We’re also looking at destination weddings which have become very big lately. As designers, we can give weddings a certain branding and look. And that’s what people want to pay for these days.”
Price depends on scale Of course, like Tahiliani, Rocky doesn’t put a price on the ‘aesthetic service’, saying that it depends on the scale of the project, but designer Leena Singh of Ashima-Leena is a bit more forthcoming when she says, “A project like this easily costs at least double of what we’d usually charge for a wedding trousseau, since it involves much more work. For instance, for the Hong Kong wedding that we did recently, the girl arrived in a helicopter, so we had to customise her dress in a way that she could climb into the helicopter easily and deboard with equal ease! For such weddings, we usually meet the wedding planner and create the theme for the wedding. Post that, we need to ensure that all the clothes also match the theme. When you design a wedding, you, as a designer, are responsible for ensuring that all the aesthetics are in sync with the theme.”

Designer speak
Designers can give weddings a certain branding and look, and that’s what people want to pay for these days – Rocky S

You create a whole mood board for the client. I want to make it spectacular, so I only do a couple of such projects a year – Tarun Tahiliani

For a wedding we did recently, the girl arrived in a helicopter, so we had to customise her dress in a way that she could climb into the helicopter easily – Leena Singh

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Wedding photography packages are available now in every U.S. city from WeddingPhotographyQuotes.com. Top wedding photographers from around the country can be contacted quickly online through this wedding website and deliver accurate quotes for wedding photos and related services.

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Wedding photography can be hit or miss for many brides-to-be when planning their big day. The traditional way to obtain a wedding photographer was to use phonebook directories or get referrals from friends and family. The use of digital cameras in wedding photography is now commonplace and many photographers are able to distribute portfolios of their work and the approximate cost of photography services completely online. The wedding resource website, http://www.weddingphotographyquotes.com, has removed the hassles and issues that can happen when fiancés want to hire a professional photographer to take wedding photos. Top photographers from around the U.S. are available through this wedding photo quotes website to help provide affordable wedding photo packages to brides-to-be.

While many photographers continue to use 35mm film for photographs, some wedding photographers have upgraded their equipment with the latest DSLR digital cameras and accessories. The learning curve to use this equipment is not as sharp as traditional film, but the processing of the photographs is very different with digital. Hiring a photographer that has experience using photo manipulation software like Photoshop can be hard to verify through a traditional listing in a newspaper or phonebook directory. “We get some of the best photographers around the country submitting bids as a direct response from our quotation form,” said Aimee Miller, Representative of WeddingPhotographyQuotes.com. “All of the photographers that appear in our database have been personally screened by us and tagged with appropriate information like software experience and camera equipment,” Miller added. 

Cost saving measures like hiring photography students from local universities has been used for decades by some budget conscious brides-to-be. The prices to hire a photographer for a wedding can be higher than what a standard portrait photographer would charge. Many advertisements for wedding photography do not include the actual cost for photos and the final price is often the deciding factor when arrangements are being made before a wedding. Pricing information can be obtained completely online through a simple quotation process. http://www.weddingphotographyquotes.com also provides helpful tips and information about wedding planning. This complete website resource is helping many ladies across the country to take care of all prenuptial details without the stress and headaches that come with planning a wedding of any size.

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A group of brides formed WeddingPhotographyQuotes.com in 2010 to make it faster and easier to be matched with professional photographers around the country. In just 2 short years, this wedding photographer database website has gathered hundreds of the top photographers and studios in the U.S. to supply immediate quotes to ladies before their big day. WeddingPhotographyQuotes.com helps simplify the hiring and review process and common errors and mistakes can now be avoided. Getting memorable photography is no longer limited to the super rich and famous. Anyone with an Internet connection can now get an accurate quote with reasonable pricing.

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Should we ditch the idea of privacy? — Don Tapscott

MAY 13 — Since I co-authored a book on privacy and the Internet 15 years ago I’ve been writing about how to manage the various threats to the security and control of our personal information. But today I find myself in a completely unexpected discussion.

A growing number of people argue that the notion of having a private life in which we carefully restrict what information we share with others may not be a good idea. Instead, sharing our intimate, personal information with others would benefit us individually and as a society.

This is not a fringe movement. The proponents of this view are some of the smartest and most influential thinkers and practitioners of the digital revolution.

Jeff Jarvis, in his thoughtful book Public Parts, makes the case for sharing, and he practices what he preaches. We learn about everything from details of his personal income to his prostate surgery and malfunctioning penis. He argues that because privacy has its advocates, so should “publicness.”

“I’m a public man” says Jarvis. “My life is an open book.”

And he provides elaborate evidence on why this has benefited him, and says that if everyone followed his lead, the world would be a better place. He concludes that while releasing information should be a personal choice, privacy regulation should be avoided.

Facebook is the leading social-media site that promotes information sharing, and part of the company’s mission is to “make the world more open.” In his book The Facebook Effect, David Kirkpatrick explains that Facebook founders believe that “more visibility makes us better people. Some claim, for example, that because of Facebook, young people today have a harder time cheating on their boyfriends or girlfriends.

They also say that more transparency should make for a more tolerant society in which people eventually accept that everybody sometimes does bad or embarrassing things.” Some at Facebook refer to this as “radical transparency” — a term initially used to talk about institutions that is now being adapted to individuals. In other words, everyone should have just one identity, whether at their workplace or in their personal life.

Stanford University professor Andreas Weigend, former chief scientist at Amazon.com, says that “the notion of privacy began with the creation of cities, and it’s pretty much ended with Facebook.” He says “our social norms are changing.”

Other thought leaders like Tim O’Reilly (he coined the term “Web 2.0″) or Steward Brand (author of the Whole Earth Catalog) defend an individual’s right to privacy. But they argue that the benefits of sharing personal information are becoming so beneficial to each of us and so widespread that we need to shift the discussion from what to share, to how to ensure the information we share is used appropriately. Says Brand: “I’d be totally happy if my personal DNA mapping was published.”

It may well be that our fundamental ideas about identity and privacy, the strategies that we have collectively pursued and the technologies that we have adopted must change and adapt in a rapidly evolving world of connectivity, networking, participation, sharing and collaboration. But this will take a long time, and in the meantime there are many challenges and even dangers.

To be sure, the digital technologies in general and social media in particular are providing new benefits to sharing personal information, and not just from getting more birthday wishes. There is a real upside to participating in communities, seeing photos, hearing stories or knowing the location of friends and family. Sharing also helps companies deliver personalized products and services. It can improve advertising, as we are targeted for products and services that correspond to our interests.

When we reveal personal information we can help society, too. Every time a gay person comes out or someone with depression opens up about his condition, it helps break down stigma and prejudice. Fully 20 percent of all patients with the fatal disease ALS share intimate information about their treatment and condition on the network PatientsLikeMe.com. And tens of thousands of others with rare diseases who use that website report that sharing has helped them better manage their illness.

It is important to understand the extraordinary volumes of data being generated and how this will increase exponentially in the near future. In the course of a day, we generate the same amount of data as had been captured since the beginning of history up to the year 2003.

Much of this is information attached to individuals. Our digital footprints and shadows are being gathered together, bit by bit, megabyte by megabyte, terabyte by terabyte, into personas and profiles and avatars — virtual representations of us, in thousands of locations.

In testimony before a congressional committee, Justin Brookman from the Centre for Democracy Technology, outlined the dilemma that citizens face when they want to participate fully in society yet not live under constant surveillance.

“There is an incredible amount that we as a society have to gain from innovative new technologies, but there is also an incredible amount that we have to lose. Without a framework in place to assure everyday consumers of the ability to limit the collection and retention of the minutiae of their lives by unknown third parties, any sense of a realm of personal privacy may completely evaporate.”

Brookman cites many examples, such as the record kept of stories read on a newspaper’s website, compared with the anonymity of buying and reading a paper from a newsstand. Or going out for a drive, talking to friends, writing letters, watching TV — “all of these rights are eroding as these activities move into the networked world and surveillance technologies become more sophisticated.”

Brookman likens the decision to opt out of being party to the data collection as analogous to opting out of electricity 30 years ago: “To disconnect from the services that collect such personal, sensitive data would be to disconnect from society.”

Before Facebook arrived, few would have predicted that hundreds of millions of people would voluntarily log on to the Internet and record detailed, almost minute-by-minute data about themselves, their activities, their likes and dislikes, and so on.

Soon smartphones (or other personal appliances like sunglasses with an internal screen) will have a persistent connection to the Internet and record nonstop video and audio of everything going on around us. This might strike some people as bizarre.

They wonder: “What could I do throughout the day that’s so important that I would want to record it?” This is like asking two decades ago: “What’s so important that I would need to carry a phone everywhere so people could reach me?”

Today most people view their cell phones as essential survival gear.

Soon a manager could ask her smartphone to retrieve the last five minutes of yesterday’s meeting with a colleague when they agreed on action items. She’ll transmit the video clip to her subordinates so they’ll know what to do. Businesspeople will archive meetings with associates or suppliers, so that if a dispute arises, they can go back and prove they’re right. Of course, since everybody knows everybody has a recording of the conversation, the dispute is less likely to arise.

Add to this the emerging “augmented reality” tools that can give you real-time information about the world around you when, say, you point your mobile device at the street. For augmented reality to work, the device must know precisely where you are and have a detailed understanding of what interests you. If you can annotate the physical world, a plethora of new capabilities open up. For example, when walking down the street and looking through the screen inside your sunglasses, perhaps you’ll be able to see the names and profiles of people you’re passing.

Lest you think managing all this data would be a nightmare, companies are already working to help ease the burden. Microsoft has a research program in progress called MyLifeBits. The programme digitizes, catalogues and retrieves every conceivable scrap of information about your own life that you could want, such as photos, rock-concert tickets and wedding invitations. It acts as a surrogate memory. Google has a similar idea. The company sees the management and retrieval of the massive amounts of data each person will soon generate as an enormous business opportunity.

The tensions between information freedom and personal control are exploding today, and not simply because of the benefits of sharing information using new media. Rather there are massive commercial and government interests, as well as malevolent individuals, that have a lot to gain from each of us revealing highly granular personal information, much of it in the public domain by default and in real time as we travel through life.

But given that there are few social and legal controls over what happens to our personal information, a life plan of “being open” is probably a big mistake. Personal information, be it biographical, biological, genealogical, historical, transactional, locational, relational, computational, vocational or reputational, is the stuff that makes up our modern identity and is the foundation of our personal security. It must be managed responsibly — not just by others, but by each of us. The clear and present danger is the irreversible erosion of that most enabling of liberties: anonymity.

Yes, we need a broad discussion and new norms and even laws regarding what is done with this cornucopia of information. But each of us also needs a personal privacy strategy governing what information we release and to whom. — Reuters

* This is the personal opinion of the writer or publication and does not necessarily represent the views of The Malaysian Insider

Designing her dreams: Southern Illinois native Nicole Box, founder of Fouche …

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“Every day, I think about fashion,” says Nicole Box.

Nicole, a Southern Illinois native, learned to sew when she was 14; her mom taught her. “We didn’t have a lot of money,” she says. “So I made some [clothes] for myself in high school.”

Flash forward to 2011. That’s when Box established her own fashion label, Fouche Couture (Fouche is her maiden name).

But the road from teenage seamstress to fashion designer had its share of bumps and detours. At one point, “I almost gave up,” Box says of her dreams.

Her journey started after high school. “I decided to go to L.A.,” she says. Box, also an artist, sold paintings to pay for her flight. She knew her mom didn’t want her to go, so she didn’t tell her. “I called [Mom] from the airport and told her I was in Los Angeles,” Box says.

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In California, she enrolled in the Fashion Institute of Design and Merchandising, a world-renowned design school. While there she took classes taught by Nick Verreos, who competed on season two of “Project Runway.”

Before she could finish her degree, however, tragedy intervened. Box says she returned home to Illinois to help her mom after her brother died.

That’s when she met her husband, Chavis. It’s also when she thought about giving up her dreams of being a fashion designer.

And then she entered Macy’s Million Dollar Makeover contest. Though she didn’t win, the experience was still life-altering for her. She got to know Clinton Kelly, host of the contest and “What Not to Wear” on TLC. Kelly became a mentor, giving her simple yet valuable advice. “He told me to not give up, and to go for my dreams,” Box says.

So, she did.

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With her husband deployed with the U.S. military, she began by modeling, getting her foot into the door of the fashion world while she worked on her sewing skills. “I had made some clothes for my daughter,” Box says — nothing too ambitious.

“I was scared to make real dresses,” she says. “So I taught myself to make anything.”

And “anything” usually involved anything but fabric. Box says one her favorite designs is what she calls the “Pepsi dress,” made of 74 Pepsi Throwback cans and some blue garbage bags. Box, not a soda lover, says she and her mom drank Pepsi for weeks so she could use the cans in the design.

“I sent [a picture] to Pepsi,” she says. And the dress? “I recycled it,” Box says. “I didn’t want it to go to waste.”

She also crafted avant-garde looks out of tin foil, balloons and playing cards. “The avant-garde costumes, I do those for myself,” she says.

When it comes to working with fabric, she’s carving a niche making special occasion dresses. “Formal gowns are what I love,” she says.

Her first collection, for spring/summer 2012, reflects that. Called “Once Upon a Fashion Fairy Tale,” the collection features gowns and dresses inspired by Alice in Wonderland, Little Red Riding Hood, Belle and other fairy tale favorites.

“I like to recreate the past in a modern look,” she says, noting she draws design inspiration from art history and all things vintage.

The collection is just one step in Box’s long-term plans. For one thing, she’s enrolled in classes at Southern Illinois University-Carbondale to finish her degree in fashion design and styling. She’s also working on getting more exposure for herself and her clothes.

“I’m constantly trying to build my portfolio,” she says. When she’s not working on looks for her Fouche collection, she’s making custom-designed gowns.

“It’s really been picking up since January,” she says. “Prom is big right now.” Box says it’s important to her that her designs be affordable. “I can’t charge a lot,” she says. For example, she spent $30 on the fabric for a prom gown that she priced at $75.

When it comes to getting her work seen, “I’ll try everything I can,” she says. “You go through a lot of rejection.”

But she keeps putting herself and her work out there. She submitted a red carpet design for E!’s Adrianne Pappell Red Carpet contest and made it to the top 25 of the online competition. She was one of seven designers, chosen from 20, to be featured in the Pronto Fashion Show held in late April in St. Louis. She also, on mentor Kelly’s advice, applied to be on “Project Runway.” Earlier this spring, her designs were featured in The Goods Magazine, based out of San Diego. “I didn’t send them anything,” Box says. “They just contacted me.”

Deb Maevers, owner of Pastimes Antiques and coordinator of the VintageNOW fashion show, was in the audience for the Pronto show, along with other members of the VintageNOW board. “I just think she’s got a great career ahead of her,” Maevers says of Box. “She’s very talented, and I look for her to be a star someday.”

In addition to modeling for the VintageNOW show, Box entered a look in the event’s Stylist Showdown. Box says her entry was inspired by the TV show “Pan Am” and fall trends. Though she didn’t win, “it was very close,” Maevers says.

Box says she’d eventually like to have her own designs featured in the VintageNOW show. For now, she’s taking the next step toward her ultimate goal of owning her own boutique.

“I’m going to add a tab option (to her website, fouchecouture.com) to purchase ready-made garments with the option to have the same garment in any size,” Nicole says. “My plan is to offer unique, one-of-a-kind, affordable formal wear for special occasions.”

All of the dresses from the Fashion Fairy Tale collection and the garments from the Pronto show will be available. “I want to offer wedding dresses as an option as well,” she says.

And, as always, Box’s designs will be kept affordable. “Each garment will be based on the fabric and material cost, plus the amount of time it took to make it. For instance, I will have garments as low as $50, such as skirts and tops, or formal dresses as low as $100 and wedding dresses as low as $200.”

She’ll also be selling custom made tutus, bows and dresses for little girls. After all, she says, her daughter is the inspiration behind everything she does.

“She’s awesome,” Maevers says of Nicole. “Some people say you can’t have it all. She’s showing you can. Wife, mother and fabulous career. And on top of it, she’s just a sweet person.”

And determined to make her dreams come true.

Carolyn Hax: Dad vs. Mom threatens wedding

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Dear Carolyn: My parents recently went through a very ugly divorce. My mother cheated on my father, and a year later he’s still angry about it.

While their marriage was falling apart, I was being proposed to by my soon-to-be husband. Wedding planning has been challenging. I am doing much on my own and am constantly worried about how my parents’ families will behave at the wedding.

My mother and I don’t really have much of a relationship, but we are working on rebuilding. Recently, my father asked me if I would be inviting her to the wedding (I haven’t made up my mind on that just yet). I explained to him that it’s a possibility.

He responded by telling me that if she comes he won’t be attending, which seems pretty selfish and unfair. I’m not asking him to sit at the same table with her; in fact, we plan to keep families separated as much as possible. I explained this to him but he doesn’t seem to care.

He keeps saying this is “his problem” but fails to realize the impact it has on me (therefore being my problem also). What to do? – Overwhelmed Bride-to-Be

I’m sorry your happy occasion is shot through with sadness.

Some ways to clarify things, if it helps:

(1) “No, Dad, it’s my problem, too – I have two parents, which hasn’t changed even though one hurt the other terribly.”

(2) As painful as the prospect may be of a wedding-day feud, family stuff can only get to you to the extent you let it. Think about what’s really at stake here: Are you afraid your family will embarrass you in front of other guests? (No one worth impressing will judge you for it, I swear.) Do you fear reopening the wounds of your family’s dissolution? (Done deal, no?) Are you afraid any fighting will ruin the experience for your guests? (Assigning each parent a “body man” – a volunteer to help pre-empt trouble – can give you peace of mind.) Do you fear “rewarding” the wrongdoer? (See “I have two parents,” above.) Be specific about your fears, because that unlocks specific solutions.

(3) Take whatever fears you identify in No. 2, and compare them against the idea of excluding your mom, and of having your dad boycott. Project to 10 years from now. What’s your worst case? When the best outcome isn’t an option, it’s useful to think in terms of being able to live with yourself.

I realize this sounds about as warm and appealing as an IRS audit, but there’s no skill you’ll use more in marriage than the ability to sort out your own priorities from others’ and either bend or stand fast accordingly. Might as well give it a spin.

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OLD NEW BORROWED REDO™ answers every bride’s burning question…What do I do …

San Diego, California (PRWEB) May 13, 2012

Old new borrowed redo™ recently announced their customized services for creating unique keepsakes from sentimental items like bridal gowns, bridesmaid dresses or any sentimental dress and turns it into beautiful, one-of-a-kind, custom keepsakes like pillows, baby blankets, lingerie and picture frames. They reuse and repurpose very special dresses, creating another very significant item – one that holds even more value because of where the fabric originated.

Lindsey Radoff and Jennifer Manroel, the identical twin sisters, co-owners and designers for ONBR, are changing the way women think of those “one-time dresses.” “We all have dresses that are sitting in our closets – from the dress we wore to our first day of kindergarten to our prom dress to our wedding dress,” says Jennifer Manroel. “We hold onto these dresses because we don’t want to forget that special time.” “Old new borrowed redo™ creates beautiful, custom keepsakes that remind our customers of that important day and can be passed down through generations,” adds Lindsey Manroel Radoff.

Lindsey and Jennifer conceived this idea after Lindsey’s own wedding in 2010. Lindsey, like many brides, was savoring in the memories of her big day while strolling on the beach on her honeymoon and thought of how much she wanted to encapsulate the memory of her wedding day. Also, like many brides, she loved her bridal gown and wanted to preserve it in some way…and so the idea was born.

After all the time and thought that goes into choosing an item like a wedding dress, many brides shudder at the idea of shoving their beautiful dresses into storage. Now ONBR offers an option that many brides never thought was available to them. The process is simple – clients discuss options/ideas with one of the ONBR design consultants, then they ship their gown with a prepaid shipping label sent by ONBR, once the gown is received, concepts are finalized, the customer agreement form is signed, and, in a few weeks, the custom keepsake is shipped to the customer.

The Old new borrowed redo™ team has designed everything from a mother-of-the-bride dress turned into pillows for her grandson’s room, a favorite cocktail dress turned into an evening clutch and sorority t-shirts into custom quilts. Many bridesmaids are redoing the bridesmaid dress they wore in a friend’s wedding and then gifting it to the friend on her wedding anniversary or as a baby gift. They recently had a customer create a ring bearer pillow out of her own wedding dress for her daughter to use in her wedding and her granddaughter to someday use in her wedding. In that way, the ring bearer pillow is something old, something borrowed and even something blue (they finished the ring bearer pillow with blue stitching for the embroidery and initialed the three generations onto the pillow.)

Lindsey and Jennifer are identical twin sisters and both attorneys by trade, who wanted to share this idea with others who may have the same question…what do I do with my wedding dress after my wedding? “We provide a way for clients to hold on in a very tangible way to the memory of one of the biggest, most memorable days of their lives,” Lindsey adds. “Having a constant reminder makes that day even more special.”

About Old new borrowed redo™

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7 Tips for Celebrating the Mother of the Bride This Mother’s Day and Beyond

Few events can put more stress on a mother-daughter relationship than planning a wedding. Even though you love and respect your mom, your visions for the Big Day will not match up perfectly — and Mom is an easy scapegoat when the stress of wedding planning takes a toll.

With Mother’s Day around the corner, here are a few tips to help you respect your mom’s perspective without allowing her to take over your wedding vision.

Mom’s Been Daydreaming, Too
Just as you daydreamed about your dress, the flowers and Prince Charming when you were a little girl, your mom has probably imagined you walking down the aisle since the first time you played dress-up. Flatter her by asking early in the process about her ideas. Take her on a walk down memory lane by looking through the photos from her wedding; it will make your mom feel special and might even give you an idea for your “something borrowed.”

She’s Not A Wedding Planner
Your mom will want to help you plan your day, but don’t automatically assign her the daunting task of coordinating your wedding unless she happens to be a wedding planner. If you need help, companies like 1-800-Registry offer complimentary access to wedding planners that can help you find reputable wedding vendors, book appointments and narrow down your options — without the emotional baggage or resentment that might result from assigning your mom to these tasks.

Share Your Vision
Let your mom know that you and your fiancé have a vision for the wedding; give her visual cues that will get her inspired to contribute ideas that work with your theme or color scheme. Invite her to join Pinterest so she can look at your wedding boards or create a few of her own. Once she understands your vision, she might reign in some of her more interesting ideas and contribute a few that are just right for your occasion.

Say Yes to the Dress
While Mom may be holding the purse strings, that doesn’t mean you have to like her purse. If you and your mom have differing opinions on fashion and style, set your expectations early by having a frank conversation with her about respecting your wedding style choices. But remember, respect begets respect, so bite your tongue when her Mother of the Bride dress is not exactly what you had envisioned.

Show Her That You’re An Adult
If you want Mom to treat you like an adult, act like one! Set a budget for your day and work within that budget. Take advantage of free tools from online wedding planning sites, including budget trackers, calendars and guest list managers that make it easy for you to show her that you’re organized and able to stay on task. After all, it’s not Mom’s job anymore.

Bring Her Back to the Future
Don’t let your mom convince you that you need stemware for 12 or two sets of flatware. Instead, fill her in on the trend toward non-traditional honeymoon registries, where couples receive experiential gifts to form memories that last a lifetime. Any financially savvy mother can appreciate registering for gifts that will help you afford a once-in-a-lifetime honeymoon.

Mommy Makeover
Take some time out from the stress of wedding planning and make a date with Mom, for Mom. Sure, it’s not her wedding, but she’s still an important part of your day. You both want her to look her best in front of the camera and with family and friends she hasn’t seen in years. With Mother’s Day around the corner, schedule a special mother-daughter day to shop for her dress, indulge in a facial or set-up a makeup consultation. It’s a fun way to accomplish all of her wedding makeover preparations and remind her how much she means to you.

Philippines designer makes stars look good



LOS ANGELES (CNN) –

Born and raised in the Philippines to a businessman and a socialite model, Monique Lhuillier is today one of LA’s most celebrated fashion designers, with a clientele that includes Gwyneth Paltrow, Kristen Stewart, Reese Witherspoon, and Scarlett Johansson.

A graduate of LA’s Fashion Institute of Design Merchandising, Lhuillier began designing wedding gowns while shopping for one for herself. She launched her first bridal collection in 1996 and today, her atelier also produces ready-to-wear evening gowns, linens and tableware, fine paper and home fragrances.

Her dresses, which sell for $1,500 to $10,000, are stocked at Bergdorf Goodman, Neiman Marcus and Saks Fifth Avenue and, in a few months, she will open a flagship store — her third outlet — and a new showroom in New York City.

Lhuillier’s average day is spent convening with her design team, monitoring the progress of licensing deals and conducting fittings, overseeing PR and production, making visits to her LA flagship store and her factory. At night, after her two children are in bed, Lhuillier often attends functions too.

Here, she tells CNN about building a business from scratch, working with celebrities, and having a husband for a CEO.

On early ambition …

Ever since I was a little girl, I always loved fashion. I would watch my mother get dressed and suggest things she should wear. When my parents used to entertain, I would come out and perform after dinner with my little outfits that were cut up and restyled. I always thought I was going to be a dancer and then fashion kind of took over. Every young girl goes through that stage, but it didn’t stop. I would go and sketch with our local tailor in the Philippines.

On breaking into bridal as a bride …

When I looked at what was out there, I felt that there was a lack of fashionable options for young women so I said, ‘This is what I want to do: I want to start with wedding gowns’. I was 23 years old.

My husband [Tom] was like ‘it’s a phase.’ We got married and six months later I came up with a small line of wedding dresses — probably six of them. I went to a local trade show and had a little booth and showed my dresses and to my excitement and delight, five stores ordered pieces from me. We drove home and I realized that I actually had to make everything.

On getting established …

The first year, people could barely say my name. They were like ‘Monique L … that Monique girl.’ Then after a year or three, they were saying ‘Monique Lu-yay’ and I was like, ‘Well, something’s happening.’

On her point of difference …

I had not worked for a storied house before, so I had to prove myself from the very beginning. I followed my gut and was always putting myself in the shoes of the ladies I was designing for. ‘Would I want to wear that? Would I feel special in that? Would that flatter my figure?’ Since we started in bridal, I really perfected the fit. I think, you know, that was the key to why so many women responded to it.

On making the old feel new …

I do three bridal collections a year, and what’s been helpful is that I do ready-to-wear in between, so when I approach bridal, I’m ready for whites and ivories again. Before, there was a point where I was like ‘I can’t do one more white wedding dress.’

I’m injecting new color. There’s blush: That’s so subtle, yet it’s a big commitment to go outside white and ivory. That’s a trend I’ve been pushing for the last two seasons and now brides are embracing it. Another trend I started five years ago was adding a sash and introducing color that way.

On designing for celebrities …

[It's a] platform for the world to see what my work looks like and they showcase it beautifully. They’re trendsetters and that’s such a positive — to get that exposure. The downside is you don’t have all the control. Sometimes when they put something on, they change the design a little bit to make it their own and our point of view is lost along the way.

I love working with Taylor Swift. Kristen Stewart has been amazing. Reese Witherspoon was a dream to work with on her wedding because she knew what she wanted and has a great sense of style. It was a very easy collaboration.

On having a CEO/husband …

It’s hard to keep family life and workplace separated. We always say we do but we don’t. When you’re married to your business partner, it’s very hard.

I always make sure his needs are met. We bounce ideas off of each other and he is my soul mate. Yes, everybody needs to work on their marriage but I feel like he is really an extension of me. I don’t know what I would do without him.

On work-life balance …

I realized when we were starting our company that you have to give up everything, personally, in the very beginning. There’s no balance at that point. It’s all about work. The first 10 years we worked almost 24 hours (a day). I mean, obviously we slept, but if we were not in the factory doing something, we were travelling, doing trunk shows, selling the collection. We did everything and I don’t think there’s any other way to start.