Men say ‘I do’ to nuptial planning

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Move over, brides! The wedding industry is getting well groomed.

Rules of engagement are changing as grooms mark their territory in a traditionally women-only industry and say “I do” to planning the big day.

Taking the lead is leading man Brad Pitt – he designed Angelina Jolie’s $500,000 engagement ring and celebrated with a family trip to the Galapagos Islands. The thoughtful groom is also reportedly restoring an estate in southern France for the much-anticipated nuptials and is taking charge of other important arrangements, including flowers and ceremony.

It’s no longer her day, it’s their day, chorus wedding planners, who are seeing growing groom interest and involvement in all things nuptial, as vendors offer miles of aisles of groom goodies, including custom-made suits, fast cars and man caves.

The shift in the past five years has been incredible, says wedding expert Karina Lemke. Many grooms are getting in the game from the get-go. In the past, “I would usually need to ask, ‘who is the groom’ when I walked into the rehearsal — that is just how far removed he was from the planning.”

Typically, the groom was told what to wear and when to arrive, adds Lemke, a Toronto-based wedding planner and proposal coach at karinalemke.com.

“Sober and on time” were the only responsibilities of the groom, adds Canadian premier party planner David Connolly. “How did it become such a female-dominated, bride-centric, grooms-not-welcome industry in the first place?”

Well, it’s his party too and he’ll plan if he wants to.

“It is just as much about him … it is an important life marker and likely the most pricey party he will ever host, so why not be involved?” adds Lemke.

All things groom is a boom growth area, second only to destination weddings, says Ophellia McKnight, of bridalaffairdestinations.com.

Guys are lending their voices and personalities to the process to make their wedding truly a celebration of the couple, by the couple, says Mcknight, who produces the Groom Show, billed as the first wedding show for men, which takes place in Toronto spring of 2013 (groomshow.ca).

“The modern groom is trendy, savvy and stylish and wants to bring aspects of his style to the wedding,” says McKnight, a Brampton wedding planner. With many couples footing the bill, “grooms want to have a say in where those wedding dollars go, including a great suit, a bar stocked with their favourite premium liquors, maybe cigar and scotch after dinner, and an amazing honeymoon.”

Man up and don the tux — the days of grooms being innocent bystanders at their own weddings are long gone, says Chris Easter, who runs an online wedding registry for grooms called TheManRegistry.com.

“Grooms are incorporating personal interests and hobbies into the wedding planning — for example, writing custom music for the ceremony, designing the couple’s wedding website and even forging custom wedding bands,” says Easter, author of Be the Man, a practical guide to help grooms navigate the wedding minefield. He expects to see TV shows and publications dedicated solely to grooms in the future.

“One of my favourite groom-centric trends of 2012 is food-truck catering for the rehearsal dinner — an event that the groom and his family traditionally pay for,” says Easter. “From tacos to barbecue to grilled cheese, the possibilities for creative eats are virtually endless. They’re also lighter on the pocketbook than traditional catering.”

Grooms are big business: Easter is also seeing Mad Men-themed weddings, man wedding showers, destination bachelor parties, and grooms creating blogs to document their wedding planning journey.

Involvement can only get more extreme, forecasts Lemke.

“As wedding vendors begin to realize that they need to target the men, you can certainly expect to see more things which will get them to loosen the purse strings.”

The unprecedented industry transformation is fuelled by couples getting married later in life and paying their own expenses, adds Connolly.

The groom’s way

Groom-centric trends in Canada, according to Karina Lemke, wedding planner at karinalemke.com:

  • Goodbye rental tux: Grooms are suiting up in either a bespoke suit (custom-made) or even a new, off-the-rack suit.
  • Shifting gears: Say bye-bye to the white wedding limo and hello to a yellow Ferrari, Porsche or red Lamborghini. “Modern grooms are arriving in style and self-driving to their weddings in luxury automobiles.”
  • Bar bill: Grooms upgrade to the deluxe bar package — even though most guests really don’t care or know what brand they’re drinking and it will add thousands to a budget.
  • Midnight snack: Grooms are all about late-night dining with requests for poutine and burger stations, and late-night food trucks to visit the venue and serve the revelers gourmet bar-type food.
  • Groom’s dens: A party within a party with a stag atmosphere. “A smaller men’s lounge with billiards or card tables, scotch or Tequila tastings, cigar rolling and scantily-clad servers giving a ‘bottle service’ type experience to the men … I hate the idea, but it is a current trend so I do get requests which I do my best to squash.”

Step aside, Bridezilla

Groomzillas are on the loose.

“There is a difference between being an involved groom, wanting a voice in the wedding plans and assisting their betrothed, and someone who becomes a groomzilla,” says Karina Lemke, Toronto wedding planner.

Bridezillas and groomzillas are both equally ugly. “Taking over, treating friends, family and vendors poorly,” says Lemke, of karinalemke.com. “This is a special, hopefully once-in-a-lifetime event and it should still retain elegance, charm, timelessness and grace and the couple should attempt to tackle it with a united sense of purpose.”

Lemke says to be on the lookout for these groomzilla red flags:

  • Your guy has a file of possible wedding venues before he has even proposed.
  • He insists on helping you select the wedding dress.
  •  He corrects you when you say the flowers will be in shades of green and pink, announcing the wedding colours as “sage and blush.”
  • His wedding app shows various members of the bridal party and families in different outfits and hair/makeup styles. “I did have a groom pull his laptop out to show me all the various possibilities for bridesmaids’ gowns and hair options.”
  • He knows the difference between chiavari chairs and ghost chairs and can spend hours worrying about the merits and pitfalls of each for the reception.

Grooming for grooms

Grooms, go for your personal best, with tips from party planner extraordinaire David Connolly of davidwconnolly.com:

Brawn: Identify your physical insecurities and fix them the best you can in the time that you have. “Invest in the trainer or the meal delivery plan or massage, acupuncture to stop smoking or teeth straightening/whitening … whatever is going to give you the confidence and energy you’ll need to enjoy every minute of your wedding and your honeymoon.”

Beauty: Say yes to the manicure, eyebrow trim, bronzer, new natural colognes — experiment long before the day to see how and what you like. “Barbershops are back. Straight razor, hot towel shaves and any of the haircuts, plus ties, shoes, coats, as seen on Mad Men.”

Personalize your wardrobe with elements to make you feel uniquely you — especially if in a rental tux. “Socks, cufflinks, tie bars, hats, monogrammed cuffs, different cuts of vests – you’ll be surprised the difference their shape and colour make or contribute to the design of your biggest style statement — your boutonniere.”

Brains: Think of her first. Do something that surprises her every day to lighten her load, relieve her stress, make her laugh, relax or sleep more soundly and longer. Budget time and money towards this task. Prioritize it over all others on your list.

‘I due’

According to wedding marketing company McCorister (mccorrister.com), the average Canadian wedding costs $23,330 and hosts 140 guests, while splendidinsights.com reports the wedding industry is worth $298 billion globally.

One Hundred Years In Weddings

One Hundred Years In Weddings

One Hundred Years In Weddings

Plans are well advanced for an event at Walkergate House, Beverley, to commemorate 100 years of ‘I Do.’

Sunday, 1 July, marks the 10th anniversary of the amalgamation of four small registration districts into the one East Riding Registration and Celebratory Services (ERRCS). They will be marking the milestone, and also acknowledging the Queen’s Diamond Jubilee, by holding an open day and staging a display of wedding dresses and other mementoes from 1912 to the present day.

The free event takes place from 11am to 3pm and coincides with Armed Forces Day in Beverley.

Tricia Mann, Superintendent registrar, said: “We have got local archives, libraries, museums, family history groups, schools and businesses all contributing, together with registrars throughout the district who have put in sterling work.

“I would really like as many people as possible to call in at Walkergate House to enjoy what promises to be a great display.. As 1 July is also Armed Forces Day in Beverley, with the town bound to be packed with folk turning out for the brave men and women in uniform, why not combine the two events?”

Ten time capsules, each representing a different decade, will display wedding dresses and other wedding memorabilia. Each 10-year period will also feature and compare a royal and a commoner’s wedding, changes to marriage and new legislation (including the recent civil partnerships). Following previous publicity for the event, members of the public have come forward with many offers of exhibits.

East Riding primary school children will be providing poems and their pictures of ‘brides of the future’, along with their thoughts behind each image. Senior school students are designing and creating a wedding dress of the future. ERRCS will present prizes and certificates to the best submissions from each age group.

The educational theme will continue throughout the open day as registrars, who have been working with teachers, distribute activity and quiz sheets to children.

East Riding Registration and celebratory Services will be linking in to Armed Forces Day with a display of celebratory military memorabilia.


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Keira Knightley Is Engaged To James Righton! Let The Wedding Dress Predictions …

Oh, how we love a good wedding! And when the bride is an A-list starlet with top notch designers on speed dial, we’re in for a good’un. Last week, we were giddy at the thought of Diane Kruger and Drew Barrymore walking up the aisle in Karl Lagerfeld-designed numbers and now we have another Chanel bride on the horizon: Keira Knightley.

Keira Knightley Is Engaged To James Righton! So Will The Actress Wear A Chanel Wedding Dress?

Keira Knightley and James Righton at the ‘A Dangerous Method’ premiere in January 2011

The actress has confirmed she’s engaged to marry James Righton after the Klaxons rocker proposed to her following a whirlwind 15-month relationship. To wit, the 27-year-old’s representative said: ‘I can confirm that Keira is engaged to be married to James Righton.’ We whoop! And it’s all thanks to Alexa Chung who introduced the Brit beauty to the cooler-than-cool keyboard player last year. Hmm, wouldn’t Chungers make the perfect hipster bridesmaid?

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Keira Knightley wearing Roksanda Illincic at the London Film Festival in October 2011

So let the wedding dress predictions begin! As the face of Chanel’s Coco Mademoiselle fragrance, we’re placing our bets on Keira turning to her old chum Unkle Karl to design her gown and considering the wonderful concoctions he’s knocked-up in the past (remember Lily Allen’s vintage-y frock, par exemple?), we can expect something floaty, timeless and slim-fitting.

Indeed, Ms Knightley’s red carpet style is more fuss-free elegance than meringue-like frothiness. Her most recent outing was back in February when she opted for the clean, simple lines of Burberry, clinched with a black bow at the waist. And at the London Film Festival in October last year, she wowed the crowd in a black and dove grey number by Roksanda Illincic topped off with a super-slick side-parted bun.

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Keira Knightley wearing Valentino Couture at the Venice Film Festival in September 2011

But our favourite KK moment has to be at the Venice Film Festival when the starlet got the flashbulbs flashing thanks to a heavenly Valentino Couture creation made of gold embroidered tulle. Dreamy. How we’d love to see her opting for another full-skirted number for her Big Day. Either way, it’s going to be a classic.

What YOU like to see Keira wearing?

Theme parks opening new attractions

ORLANDO, Fla. The first phases of a reimagined Fantasyland at Floridas Walt Disney World, the new Cars Land at Californias Disneyland based on the Cars movies, and Universal Studios Hollywoods new Transformers ride top the list of new attractions at theme parks across the country in 2012.

And thrill ride enthusiasts wont be disappointed, with at least 20 new roller coasters debuting at parks from Maryland to California.

Disney says the renovation and new construction at Fantasyland inside the Magic Kingdom in Florida is the largest expansion project in the parks 40-year history, doubling the size of the current Fantasyland. Part of it including one of what will eventually be dueling Dumbo rides and the rethemed Barnstormer family roller coaster opened in April.

Much of the construction is still in the middle stages, but Disney says most of the new elements will be open in time for the winter holidays this year, with the rest opening later. Its going to include new attract-areas immersive mini-parks that include attractions, restaurants and retail built around the stories of Snow White and Beauty and Beast, as well as a new dark ride based on the adventures of The Little Mermaid.

Replacing Snow Whites Scary Adventures in Fantasyland will be Princess Fairytale Hall, where visitors will be able to interact with all the Disney princesses.

The opportunity to greatly expand and relaunch Fantasyland, which has been largely unchanged since 1972, is just a huge opportunity, Tom Staggs, chairman of Disney Parks and Resorts, told The Associated Press earlier this year. Every time I go down and look at the progress in construction I get more excited about it.

Industry consultant Dennis Speigel said the Fantasyland expansion with detail-oriented areas immersing guests in Disney-themed worlds is expected to pay dividends for years, much like the hugely successful Harry Potter mini-park at Universal Orlando, where visitors feel like theyve been dropped right into meticulously decorated movie sets.

Its a big deal, Speigel, president of Cincinnati-based International Theme Park Services, said of the Fantasyland project. Its the largest expansion ever in the history of the park. The last number we heard is that its approaching $500 million….Parks have realized it takes more than a Space Mountain by itself or one ride and attraction. It has to have a combination of all the elements now.

In June, Disneyland California Adventure is opening Cars Land, replicating the town of Radiator Springs from the movies, including a race-course ride and two other new little-kid-friendly attractions.

Universal Studios Hollywood in Los Angeles is expected to debut the new Transformers ride a dark ride with motion-simulator vehicles inspired by the science fiction action film on Friday (May 25), with gates opening early Memorial Day weekend (starting at 7:30 a.m. Saturday) due to expected interest in the ride. On May 8, Universal Orlando introduced a daily interactive character parade and nighttime pyrotechnics show celebrating Universals 100 years of making movies. A new 3-D ride based on the Despicable Me movie will open at Universal Orlando sometime this summer.

In April, SeaWorld Orlando opened a new attraction centered on sea turtles, including a first-of-its-kind 360-degree domed theater showing a 3-D movie about the endangered creatures. Legoland, which opened in October in central Florida, is renovating and reopening an existing water park at the site in time for the summer season.

Busch Gardens Tampa Bay this spring rolled out an elaborate ice show called Iceploration, which features everything from bombastically costumed skaters to real live exotic birds flying around the indoor theater. The show tells the story of a kid who, with the help of his wise grandfather, puts down his electronic devices and discovers the natural wonders of the world. And entering the cool indoor theater for the 30-minute show will undoubtedly be a welcome respite for park visitors in the heat of the Florida summer.

The International Association of Amusement Parks and Attractions trade group reports 135 new attractions opening this year, including water parks, rides and shows, spokeswoman Colleen Mangone said. Among those are 20 new roller coasters.

Its almost like timing is everything, Mangone said. And in 2012 were seeing short-term and long-term projects coming to fruition at the same time, which certainly should create some great thrills at amusement parks.

Among the new coasters debuting are Manta at SeaWorld San Diego, which will simulate underwater flight; and Superman-themed launch coasters at Six Flags Discovery Kingdom in Vallejo, Calif., and Six Flags Magic Mountain in Valencia, Calif. Six Flags Great America in Gurnee, Ill., introduces a new coaster called X-Flight, in which two riders sit side-by-side with their feet dangling, experience a 12-story drop and turn upside down five times.

Hersheypark in Hershey, Pa., introduces a 200-foot-tall coaster called Skyrush, which will reach speeds of 75 mph and includes five zero-G airtime hills. Dollywood in Pigeon Forge, Tenn., opened the 210-foot-tall Wild Eagle coaster in March. Busch Gardens Williamsburg in Virginia unveils a half-mile-long indoor-outdoor coaster called Verbolten.

Apocalypse at Six Flags America in Largo, Md., is a 100-foot-tall stand-up coaster, and the Stinger at Dorney Park Wildwater Kingdom in Allentown, Pa., is a scorpion-themed boomerang-style coaster that features six inversions and face-to-face seating.

Based on attendance trends and season-pass sales, Speigel said the theme park industry is expected to see 7 percent growth or more this year, which is much better than expected.

He attributes it to the number of new attractions, an improving economy, pent-up demand and other factors.

Glam Bride NYC Launches Official Website

(PRWEB) May 28, 2012

Planning a wedding can be quite the daunting task, both mentally and financially. To ease brides from the stress of wedding planning, we are happy to announce the launch of Glam Bride NYC, a vibrant, interactive community for brides, brides-to-be, and bride helpers alike.

Glam Bride NYC hopes to be the leading internet source for wedding ideas, advice, and tips and tricks, covering a wide range of topics, from the engagement process and choosing the perfect ring, to the merits of planning a rehearsal dinner, to the latest in wedding fashion and accessories, to popular honeymoon destinations. The inspiration behind the site comes from Glam Bride NYC founder Elizabeth Jones, who claims, “Weddings and related events are something that my team and I have become very passionate about over the years, but planning one on your own can be a challenge. We wanted to pool our knowledge together and aggregate all the information in an easy-to-access, attractive package for everyone to enjoy.”

With a team of highly-talented writers and experts as the backbone of the portal, Glam Bride NYC also offers an interactive forum where you can share your knowledge and experiences with the rest of its vast online community. Also featured is a beautiful gallery where you can pick up wedding inspiration, as well as an extensive list of sponsors and affiliates all tied to the wedding business to make hunting down the perfect caterer or jeweller as easy as clicking a link.

Glam Bride NYC can be found at http://www.glambridenyc.com. Visit them today!

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A great idea for celebrate the wedding anniversary with limousine ride.

Hiring a limousine can easily add the stylish touch to any special event. Hiring a limousine on your anniversary date will likely remind you of the day of your wedding and you can easily celebrate this event in different style. Hiring a limousine gives you, the more freedom in the night because you no need to take the tension about the driver. When you hire a limo from any limo company, then they also provide the driver facility with limousine. So you can easily enjoy your anniversary night without any problem.

Make your anniversary day with the bridal party in any of the town with limousine ride gives you, the remarkable feeling to you and your partner. You can celebrate this party with wedding theme by asking all your friends come in the party with their partner in formal dress. You can use the limousine to pick up them from their destinations.

If you are interested to celebrate this in the car, then you can also celebrate this event with your friends in the big limousine car. There are different models of limousine are available in the market; some provide you, the big space with all party facilities. So you can enjoy your party in the big limousine car.

 The second method to celebrate your wedding anniversary is that you first choose different locations around your town, which are important in the development of your relationship before your marriage. You have to create the list of those locations, which are very important between your married time periods. You have to give the list to the limo driver and give the surprise to your wife with limousine ride. When the driver passes the limo from the location, where you met the first time with your wife, then you will remind all of your memories like your first kiss, your first date, you first gift and many other things.

The other method to celebrate your wedding anniversary is that you have to prepare a list of the locations, which each of you visited on your wedding day. You have to drive the limousine from those hotels in which your spent your time on your wedding and thus you can easily reproduce your thoughts. You can visit the salon where you and your wife got ready for this big day. You have to visit that hotel in which you spent your first wedding night and you can stay in that hotel once again as husband and wife to make your anniversary day as same as your wedding day.

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Fashion: Design your signature look

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MURFREESBORO — If you are someone who has been thinking that you can’t do the trends popular for the summer, keep reading.

Many trends are flash-in-the-pan, showing up and being seen everywhere before disappearing into the night. Remember last year’s feather extensions? Every girl and her mama had them. Yet this year, you won’t see the same saturation, because it is all about adding rainbow tints to your tresses.

Other trends become as much of a staple as other classic pieces. Think ballet flats. You probably have your favorite pair on right now, don’t you? They go great with dresses, denim and all things in between, but only a few short years ago, they were the on-trend, must-have piece.

So, what makes a trend and what makes a classic? Mostly it is about what works in the average woman’s wardrobe.

Fashion magazines will tout the amazing benefits of having a safari jacket or a boyfriend blazer in your closet. But just last fall it was the military style, and before that, the shrunken tuxedo jacket. What’s a girl to do? Skip out? Never.

What you should look for is a great-fitting blazer in a neutral shade. A classic piece never goes out of style. You can always pair it with a graphic tee and skinnies, or add studded epaulet pins, rosettes or any other kind of detailing you want that can be removed after the season is over.

The same can be said of your favorite jeans. You may love the way skinny jeans look, but are uncomfortable with the way they look on your body. That’s OK. Straight-leg jeans can re-create the shape without being so extreme for pear-shaped and plus-sized ladies.

A standard LBD is a must-have in any closet, right? What if you don’t like black? Or maybe you want to change it up. Black is versatile, so it is a great staple, but a cranberry, navy or emerald-toned piece can work if you update it with the latest accessories.

Not too long ago women were draping their necks with statement necklaces. Now they are showing off their toned arms with bold cuffs. If you prefer earrings, go with a pair of glitzy drop earrings.

PENINSULA PROFILE: Couple build life, hostel for travelers

PORT ANGELES — If you’re a traveler coming into Port Angeles, wandering up Fifth Street in the late afternoon, a small boy might call out to you.

“International hostel!” he’ll yell, especially if you’re on a bicycle loaded with luggage.

That’s Anthony Piccolo, the 5-year-old son of Alethia Lane, the co-owner of ToadLily House. Anthony is the full-throated promoter of the hostel across the street from the Port Angeles City Fire Department, where budget travelers can find some of the most affordably priced lodging in town.

Not that you’d miss the place. It’s not big, but it’s painted chartreuse with eggplant-purple and russet accents; rhododendrons flank the front porch and a sparkly homemade sign says “OPEN.”

This is the house that Lane and her husband, Cody Coughenour, have opened after a winding road of their own. And the couple, married just 20 months, have poured their hearts and hopes into its rooms.

Coughenour, 33, grew up in Port Angeles, became an actor and dancer and studied environmental policy in Western Washington University’s Huxley program at Peninsula College. He also traveled the world — becoming well-acquainted with the hostelling experience — before returning to his home town. Back in Port Angeles, Coughenour performed in local theater productions and worked a series of jobs in restaurants and at PenPly, the now-closed plywood mill.

He was still searching, though, for the right livelihood, and the right life partner.

In 2008, Coughenour met a young woman at Bella Italia. Lane was working as a hostess while Coughenour labored in the kitchen.

They noticed each other, to say the least.

“I definitely was crushing on him,” Lane remembers.

Nothing happened, though, because “I’d heard he was trouble.” This guy with the bright red hair had a bit of a reputation as a, well, partygoer. Lane steered clear.

Both left Bella; Coughenour went to work at Maria’s, the now-closed restaurant on Lincoln Street.

Lane concentrated on mothering her toddler, Anthony, and later started a new job as a patient access representative at Olympic Medical Center.

About eight months went by, and it looked like Lane and Coughenour had gone their separate ways. But then they started running into each other at various places around town.

One thing led to another, Coughenour and Lane went out for dinner together, and then became an item.

As they spent more time getting to know each other, each had a feeling: this could be the real love thing.

Accordingly, Lane was honest about her needs and wants. She was just 21, but wasted no time before telling Coughenour that she was not inclined toward casual dating or hanging out. She had her young son to think about, and she wasn’t about to introduce him to any man unless that man was going to be in their lives, for sure, for a long time.

Hearing this, “he was kind of freaked out,” Lane recalls.

Seated beside his wife in the ToadLily House living room three years later, Coughenour smiles.

“I knew from the moment I saw her that she was something special,” he says after a moment. He also knew that it would be folly to evade a commitment, foolish to let Lane go.

Just about a year after that first dinner together, they married, on Sept. 11, 2010.

There were some quizzical looks, from people who questioned their choice of a wedding date.

But Lane and Coughenour wanted to take the date back, as it were, and make it a day to start anew. A day of joy and peace, as Lane puts it.

The outdoor nuptials were held at the Eden Valley home of the bridegroom’s father Brian Coughenour, where a variety of musicians provided the soundtrack: David Rivers and Joey Gish of Abby Mae the Homeschool Boys, Cindy Lowder of the Soulshakers — oh, and Pato Banton, Brian’s friend and an internationally known reggae performer. Banton, who had already planned to come out to Eden Valley to give a concert — even before he heard about the wedding — performed the ceremony.

The bride and groom chose an east Indian theme for the celebration, so “it was a multicultural event that turned into a dance party,” said Neil Conklin, a friend of the family.

Conklin, who is also Bella Italia’s owner, escorted Lane up the aisle on her wedding day.

“I couldn’t have been happier,” he said, “to give her away to Cody.” Conklin has known Coughenour since he was a kid, and yes, he acknowledges, he went through a wild phase before finding Lane.

“I think they are good influences on each other,” Conklin says.

“She is such a bright light,” he adds of Lane, with whom he worked at Bella and at Angel Farm, when his restaurant served up salmon suppers at the Lavender Festival.

“She really saw Cody’s spirit” and looked past the reputation, Conklin says.

Not long after the wedding, Coughenour had the idea for establishing an international hostel in Port Angeles; he envisioned a place where sojourners could meet one another, and that would serve as a low-cost alternative to hotels and motels. He even invited a group of cyclists passing through Port Angeles to stay at his place on Fifth Street, and thought about turning that house into a hostel. But it wasn’t quite right.

The one next door, though, had potential. At the time it was a beige office building for a group of therapists; Brian Coughenour was the landlord.

Then, in early 2011, the therapists moved on. The timing was serendipitous: Brian, an attorney and Clallam County Court Commissioner, had by that time had his fill of the monthly rent collection routine.

Both Coughenours thought a hostel could work in the just-vacated house. It’s well-situated for the thrifty traveler, about two blocks from Safeway and within walking or cycling distance from downtown’s bus and ferry terminals.

So in March 2011 father and son got busy, remodeling and painting, cultivating the garden in back, building a deck beside it.

Lane, however, was a little nervous at first. She and her husband and son lived right door to the hostel-to-be, so she wondered: Who will these guests be? Will they be rowdy, up until all hours?

At the same time, she shared Coughenour’s vision for a place where people from everywhere could come and meet one another, and where they could experience Port Angeles, Olympic National Park and rest of the Peninsula.

Back when she first started seeing Coughenour, Lane had been impressed with how he treated people. This was one of the qualities, she adds, that won her over.

“He is respectful,” she says, “of people of all social backgrounds, of all ages.”

Lane herself credits her mother, Elizabeth Dawson of Port Angeles, for showing her how to extend a hand to a stranger. Dawson believed in treating people with kindness, whether they were well-dressed or wearing tatters.

So this young wife and husband were well-qualified, it turns out, for the jobs they created for themselves. From that March forward, they worked on the place they named ToadLily House, in part because Coughenour is a fan of the toad lily, a shade-loving perennial.

There’s another, playful reason, Lane adds with a smile: ToadLily sounds like “totally,” so maybe it’ll be easy to remember. Besides, it’s just fun.

The ToadLily House opened in late fall 2011, and had a few guests in November and December; then Coughenour and Lane raised their profile by joining the Port Angeles Regional Chamber of Commerce with its website, www.PortAngeles.org. People from all over — Japan, Cambodia, Canada, Australia — have found the hostel, with its $25-a-night rates, common kitchen and living room.

Lane, for her part, is enjoying the variety of people who appear on the ToadLily doorstep. They’re environmental scientists who want to hike in the national park, ragged bus passengers looking for a place to rest and regroup, and others in between.

Coughenour, meanwhile, wants to offer yet another form of refreshment, via that strange-looking structure in front of the ToadLily House.

It’s a wooden frame Coughenour is building in the shape of a juice cup, complete with a sipping straw. He and Lane want to open a juice stand in their front yard some day soon, though city building regulations have stalled construction for now.

Lane, for her part, has had her hands, and arms, full. Five months ago, just as the ToadLily was opening its doors, she and Coughenour welcomed their daughter Caya into the world. During a reporter’s visit last week, the baby cooed and watched the proceedings while cradled in her grandfather Brian’s arms.

May has been a festive month at the ToadLily. The chamber of commerce ambassadors came over for a ribbon cutting May 3, and now that it’s Memorial Day weekend, Lane and Coughenour are looking forward to the summer travel season and, they hope, a stream of guests at the ToadLily House. The place is all decked out, painted in tropical tones a lot like its namesake flower; inside, the decor is casual, with a big “Explore the Pacific Northwest wonderland” poster —­ which Lane found on eBay — in the living room.

The front room is also a showcase for local art and books. Legacy Laboratory: A Springboard to Writing Personal History by Lane’s grandmother Zeller Westabrook is on sale here, as are tin-can salmon sculptures by Natalie Brown and note cards emblazoned with paintings by Johnny Rickenbacher.

“We want to use local artists’ work as decoration till somebody buys it,” says Lane, adding that she and Coughenour also hope to have small concerts at the ToadLily.

The couple want the hostel to be not only a place to sleep but also a haven for artists, musicians and lovers of the outdoors — and already this is the clientele discovering it. Singer-songwriter Lola Parks of Victoria came, stayed and played her guitar in both the living room and at the Next Door gastropub downtown. And Parks is back this weekend, for another afternoon of music starting at 4 p.m. today at Next Door, 113 W. First St.

Lane and Coughenour have sought to make their hostel a comfortable place for single travelers, couples and families, so there are single beds in a couple of dormitory-style rooms, two semi-private rooms upstairs and the Raven’s Rest, a private room that could appeal to a honeymooning couple.

The upstairs rooms are decorated with simple touches — a light blue scarf bearing pictures of Paris adorns the ceiling of one, for example. That room is called Ladybug Heaven in honor of the deceased ladybugs Coughenour kept finding up there. The other is Freshwater Stay, a nod to Freshwater Bay, that Joyce kayaking spot.

Lane and Coughenour decorated the ToadLily largely with things found at the Habitat for Humanity ReStore in Port Angeles, on Craisgslist and at Goodwill; Lane is skilled at repurposing. She found a pamphlet about Olympic Peninsula marine life — birds, flowers, mollusks — at Swain’s General Store, enlarged it on a color photocopier and used it to decorate the ToadLily’s bathroom.

The house can hold 12 to 18 people depending on the mix of singles, couples, parents and children; single beds rent for $25 per night while the semiprivate rooms go for $50 and the private Raven’s Rest for $60.

Coughenour and Lane also offer the ToadLily’s common area for small group meetings and conferences, for $25 per hour. Lane added that they are willing to barter with guests, exchanging household chores for rent.

When the backyard organic garden gets growing this summer and fall, guests will also be invited to harvest broccoli, green beans, carrots, artichokes and raspberries, which Cody and Brian Coughenour cultivate.

“I feed myself out of this garden,” said Brian, whose law office is conveniently located next door to the ToadLily House.

Lane and Coughenour, meantime, are finding this new business suits them fine.

“It’s a lot more fun than it is work,” with the variety of people who come through, said Lane. “You can choose your involvement with the guests,” just as they can choose to socialize or not.

“It’s a great way to work at home,” said Lane as she picked Caya up for some cuddling.

“It’s really nice to have two people; even three,” she added, to grow this business: Lane and the two Coughenours share ideas for ToadLily’s future — as well as the child care.

It’s also clear that Coughenour, after his travels and various jobs, has found his right place.

“I am juiced for this,” he quipped.

Then, looking at Lane and baby Caya, he added: “My wife has given me so much.”

Tribal (in)justice: Six face death for attending mixed gathering

The women allegedly sang Mahiyas (folk songs) at a wedding ceremony and danced in the presence of Na-mehram (those who one can marry in Islam). DESIGN: S. JAMAL

KOHISTAN: In a shocking instance of tribal (in)justice, a jirga in a remote village of Hazara division has condemned four women and two men to death for ‘staining the honour’ of their families.

They were allegedly caught on videotape singing and dancing together at a wedding ceremony in violation of the “tribal custom of gender segregation”.

The women, all of them married, have been called back from their in-laws and locked in a room in Seertaiy village, in Peech Bela union council of Kohistan district.

“A tribal jirga has declared them Ghul (fornicators). And they might be killed any time,” said Muhammad Afzal, elder brother of the two men condemned to death. The men have, however, managed to flee.

Afzal added that the women allegedly sang Mahiyas (folk songs) at a wedding ceremony and danced in the presence of Na-mehram (those who one can marry in Islam).

The wedding ceremony took place two months ago in Bando Baidar village, which is also in UC Peech Bela. Some unscrupulous guest shot the women and men singing and dancing with a mobile phone video camera, sources told The Express Tribune. The amateur video was later sent to the women’s kin.

The tribe to which the women belong was incensed by the video. They convened a jirga of tribal elders a month ago. The elders found the women and men guilty of violating tribal and Islamic norms by singing and dancing together.

“The jirga did not bother to hear the ‘accused’ and condemned them to death,” Afzal told The Express Tribune. The jirga has tasked 40 young men to kill the ‘fornicators’. The tribe has also raised a fund of Rs400,000 for litigation that may ensue.

According to the jirga’s  verdict, the men have to be shot dead first.

The ‘accused’ women, two of them having children, are locked in a room in their parental village. “They are tied with ropes. They are being starved,” claimed Afzal.

The local police chief confirmed that the jirga has condemned the six people to death. “I’ve spoken to the tribal elders and I’ll utilise all resources available to stop these executions,” Abdul Majeed Afridi, the district police officer (DPO), told The Express Tribune. He has already sent a police party to Seertaiy village to recover the women.

Afzal voiced doubts about the authenticity of the video and accused his foes for forging it to humiliate his family. “Since our family is affluent and owns vast acres of forestland, orchards and agriculture farms in Bando Baidar village. They (our rivals) hatched a plot to deprive us of our property,” he claimed.

Afzal claimed that the forged video did not show his brothers and the women dancing together.

DPO Afridi, who claims to have seen the video, agreed with Afzal. He said that the women were seen singing Mahiyas and clapping their hands in a room. On the other hand, the clip showing the men has a different background.

Afzal works as a clerk at the office of Abdul Saboor Usmani Advocate, the lawyer who practices criminal law at the Abbottabad Registry of Peshawar High Court (PHC). Usmani called the jirga’s decision a blatant violation of human rights.

He added that the women were being tormented – both mentally and physically – without any crime. Afzal added that the jirga had no right to condemn somebody to death. “Still, if they believe my brothers have broken some law, let a court of law decide the matter,” he said.

Afzal, however, said that he had appealed to Chief Minister Ameer Haider Hoti during his recent visit to Battagram to provide him and his family security against his foes. He warned that otherwise local police and the provincial authorities would be responsible for any harm to him or his family.

Published in The Express Tribune, May 28th, 2012.