Federal court: Hawaii can regulate beach weddings

Hawaii can regulate weddings on public beaches without violating people’s right to marry, a federal appeals court ruled Wednesday.

Permits required by the state help protect more than 200 public beaches in the islands, the 9th U.S. Circuit Court of Appeals said.

“We recognize that the right to marry is a fundamental right,” the ruling says. “But . . . regulation of commercial weddings on unencumbered state beaches does not impinge on the right to marry.”

Hawaii is a popular location for destination weddings, with couples from all over the world bringing friends and family to the islands to witness their nuptials on a sandy shore.

During the late 1990s and early 2000s, commercial recreational beach activities were largely unregulated, the ruling says, resulting in congestion of some public beaches.

In 2008, the state began requiring permits for commercial weddings. The permit fee is 10 cents per square foot of beach area, with a minimum of $20 per event. Liability insurance also is required.

The requirements prompted a lawsuit by Pastor Laki Kaahumanu and a group of Maui wedding planners, who argued that they violate the First Amendment. The wedding planners complained that the rules hurt business, especially with the rising costs of insurance.

Reached by phone Wednesday afternoon, Kaahumanu did not appear to be aware of the ruling but did say that he still believed the permit requirement “seems to be an unconstitutional type of a thing.”

Saying he needed to rush off to perform a wedding, Kaahumanu complained about enforcement, pointing to a case of a photographer who was cited and faces a court date because the person with the permit left the area. He asked why the state is charging a Native Hawaiian a fee to use the beach to officiate a wedding and why the state does not assess fees from churches and people holding birthday parties and other events at the beach.

Despite his objections, Kaahumanu, who says he has done “tens of thousands of weddings,” explained that he “would rather . . . play the game right” and obtains permits for weddings he officiates.

A major concern of wedding planners was that state officials could arbitrarily revoke or cancel permits and that sometimes weddings were interrupted to do so, said the plaintiffs’ Maui attorney, James Fosbinder. He said the ruling should calm those fears, saying state officials can’t revoke a permit after it’s been issued.

“Wedding planners want to know that once they get a permit, it won’t be taken away, especially if you’ve got family coming from the Mainland,” Fosbinder said. “That was the nightmare scenario.”

The beaches are a precious resource, said Joshua Wisch, spokesman for the state attorney general, and the court “recognized that the state has an important role in protecting those beaches, and regulating commercial activity is a part of that.”

Shasta Rose, owner of Maui Weddings From The Heart, said Wednesday that the state’s permit requirement has not created a problem, noting that she’s been able to obtain a permit on the way to the wedding. She said that the permit process has been positive in some some aspects, because it requires cleanup of the beach after the event and the elimination of chairs; some weddings were setting up too many, she said.

On the downside, Rose, who has been in the wedding-planning business since 1985, said that the permit process adds cost to the wedding and that couples may be going elsewhere for their nuptials because of restrictions on their ceremonies on the beach.

“We can’t have archways and chairs,” she said. “That’s kind of a problem sometimes. Couples will opt for somewhere else.”

There can be no stands of flowers or kahili, just a small table and a circle of flowers, Rose said.

“I wish we would set up a bamboo archway or a few chairs,” she said.

Her experience in the wedding-planning business goes back before permits, and Rose said she does not see the state regulation “as a necessary thing.” She explained that most weddings are performed during sunset when beachgoers are going home.

Rose said that she never had a problem holding weddings on the beach or offending people in the pre-permit era. In fact, beach users often offered to move.

“They respect a wedding and enjoy watching them, and they want to give couples their space,” Rose said.

Jacqueline Johnson, owner of Sweet Hawaii Weddings on Oahu, said that she never had problems with the state and permits.

“The state has been pretty lenient,” she said. “I don’t have any complaints.”

She said she understands why it’s necessary to have a permit, but since the wedding industry helps fuel the economy, “they shouldn’t make it too difficult for the wedding planners.”

Wedding planners were initially resistant to obtaining permits, because they could just show up at a beach in the past, said Penei Aller, co-owner of Beach Weddings Hawaii on the Big Island. But as the industry grows, she said, it’s helpful to go on the state’s permitting website to see what other weddings are scheduled at a particular beach.

June 8 Berlin bridal stroll not just for couples

BERLIN — This month, Berlin’s Friday celebration is taking you to the altar.

The monthly happening — Friday, June 8 — is being called a “Bridal Stroll,” and will feature businesses with wedding-related floor and window display and a bridal-themed basket giveaway worth more than $1,300.

The event is also part of the larger “Say I Do” in Berlin campaign.

“Angela Reynolds, general manager at the Atlantic Hotel, has been working on packaging historic locations in the area to hold weddings,” said Michael Day, director of economic development with the Berlin Arts and Entertainment District. “When Bustle, the new wedding boutique, came to town she began to partner with them and brainstorm ideas. They then formed a committee, and invited others in Berlin who they felt would add something to the wedding experience. It then mushroomed into the first 2nd Friday Bridal Stroll.”

Last June, the town held a “Runaway Bride” scavenger hunt downtown during 2nd Friday. The hit movie of the same name, staring Julia Roberts and Richard Gere, was filmed in Berlin in the late 1990s.

This weekend, a similarly-themed contest requires participants to pick up an envelope at a participating business, then follow the enclosed map to collect business cards from other local shops.

The drawing for the basket will be held at Bustle, located at 8 p.m. at 9 S. Main St.

Eleven area businesses have donated prizes, including a $200 gift certificate to Atlantic Retreat, a two-night stay in a deluxe room at Atlantic Hotel and dinner for two at Drummer’s Cafe, a private lesson from Ballroom Made Simple, a $150 gift certificate to Culver’s Antiques, a one-month gym membership at Furious Fitness and a “Charming Wedding” bracelet from Victorian Charm.

“We feel we have everything to offer a bride as a one-stop destination for planning their wedding,” Day said. “That said, you don’t have to be a prospective bride to enjoy 2nd Friday. You can be married, or not even thinking about a wedding, but you will have a real fun time, find out about all the new shops and things that Berlin has to offer and have a chance to win a fabulous basket of Berlin offerings.”

For more information on the contest or the “Say I Do” campaign,contact Kristen Basmajian or Angela Reynolds at 410-641-3589.

Drew Barrymore describes ‘perfect’ wedding day with Will Kopelman

Drew Barrymore once wore Cinderella’s slippers for her film “Ever After,” but her wedding on Saturday to art dealer Will Kopelman was her own sort of fairytale.

The intimate affair in Montecito was more of a backyard shindig than a billionaire social event, according to the bride.

“The day was perfect,” a pregnant Barrymore told People. “Everyone we love and care about was there. It was as fun and meaningful as we ever could have hoped.”

Guests, including Cameron Diaz, Jimmy Fallon and Reese Witherspoon, were surrounded by accents including pink lace and green garland, conspiring to create a “vintage romantic” theme, wedding planner Yifat Oren said.

Barrymore “just wanted a backyard wedding,” he told the mag.

With Kopelman’s father, Ari, the former chief executive of design house Chanel, the bride wore a gown from the label — a dress that came with a pretty significant stamp of approval.

Karl Lagerfeld, Chanel’s head designer and creative director, called Barrymore’s bridal look “perfect.”

“I think she looked beautiful and it fit her strong personality,” Lagerfeld told InStyle magazine. 

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Jennifer Hudson gets back to wedding planning

Jennifer Hudson is excited to move ahead with wedding plans now that the case of her family’s brutal 2009 murder has been closed.

“That was something that was hanging over our heads for so long, and now we feel like we can finally breathe a sigh of relief,” Jen’s fiance, David Otunga, told People magazine.  “Everything is good now.”

Near the top of Jen’s agenda is locking down details of her big day with David. No matter what they wind up doing, he knows that their son, David Jr., “will definitely be a huge part of it.”

It’s that dedication to her child that lets David know he’s got a keeper. “I’m blessed to have such a wonderful woman in my life who cares for our child so lovingly,” said David. “It’s made me love her just that much more.”

Jen added, “I care for my child like my mommy cared for me.”

Not unlike her mother, Jen is a working mom. This week she performed at the Samsung Hope For Children Gala in New York City, where she performed a medley in tribute to Whitney Houston.
 

 

 

 

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Couples share ideas to keep marriages going strong

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A photographer snaps a picture during a wedding vow renewal ceremony at Las Ventanas. Sixteen couples – who have been married a combined 937 years, or about 58 years each on average – renewed their vows during a ceremony hosted by the retirement community on Wednesday, June 6, 2012.

Thursday, June 7, 2012 | 2 a.m.

In America, the average length of a marriage is about 11 years.

But for Herb Lowe and his wife, Bonnie, 11 years was just a warm up.

The couple, who have been married 70 years, celebrated their commitment Wednesday afternoon with a song and a dance at the Las Ventanas retirement community in Summerlin.

Sixteen couples – who have been married a combined 937 years, or about 58 years each on average – renewed their vows during a ceremony hosted by the retirement community.

“This is about celebrating the great moments together,” said Patty Allsbrook, lifestyle director at Las Ventanas.

Here’s a look at six couples whose relationships have stood the test of time and some advice they have for making marriage last:

    • Marilyn and Herb Steege hold hands during a wedding vow renewal ceremony at Las Ventanas Wednesday, June 6, 2012.

      Marilyn and Herb Steege – Married 40 years

      “You have to compromise. The one who wants to win doesn’t always win,” said Marilyn Steege, who met her future husband, Herb, in the 1970s when he was a Nellis airman and she worked for the Clark County Sheriff’s Office.

      The two say common interests, including a love for UNLV basketball, have kept them close throughout the years.

    • Elaine and Ron Stoller, married for 63 years, smooch at the conclusion of a wedding vow renewal ceremony at Las Ventanas Wednesday, June 6, 2012.

      Elaine and Ron Stoller – Married 63 years

      Good communication is crucial in any relationship, Elaine Stoller said.

      “We always talk about everything,” the retired teacher said.

      Elaine and her future husband, Ron, met when both worked in education in Nebraska during the 1940s.

      The two retired to Nevada in 1990, and have been here ever since.

      “We love the desert,” Elaine Stoller said.

    • Mickey Mastropietro smiles at his wife Rose Mastropietro during a wedding vow renewal ceremony at Las Ventanas Wednesday, June 6, 2012. The Mastropietros have been married for 60 years.

      Rose and Mickey Mastropietro – Married 60 years

      Throughout the early days of their 60-year marriage, Rose and Mickey Mastropietro saw a lot of each other as they worked side by side in the pharmacy they owned in Connecticut.

      “We each did our own thing at work, so it wasn’t a problem,” Rose said.

      The two, who married right after college, retired to Las Vegas after selling their pharmacy business.

      Their advice for a long-lasting marriage?

      “Never go to bed angry,” Rose said. “That’s about the best advice you can give.”

    • Kay Harmon wipes away a tear while renewing her wedding vows with her husband Jerry at Las Ventanas Wednesday, June 6, 2012.

      Kay and Jerry Harmon – Married 52 years

      College sweethearts, Kay Harmon likes to joke that Jerry every other girl in her sorority at Oregon State University before making his way to her.

      “He saved the best for last,” Harmon said with a smile.

      Jerry Harmon flew planes for the Air Force for 25 years, which led his family on adventures around the world.

      The couple landed in Las Vegas, where they say staying active and having fun help keep them as in love as the day they got married.

      “We have a lot of respect for each other,” Kay Harmon said.

      “We care more about each other than we do about ourselves,” Jerry said.

    • While Glenn Miller's Chattanooga Choo Choo plays, Herb Lowe holds his wife Bonnie's hand while he dances during a wedding vow renewal ceremony at Las Ventanas Wednesday, June 6, 2012. The Lowes have been married for 72 years.

      Bonnie and Herb Lowe – Married 70 years

      As a young man preparing to enter the Navy, Herb Lowe met a beautiful woman who had recently moved into town.

      “Someone told me there’s a real good-looking girl you’ve got to meet,” Lowe said.

      That woman ended up being his wife, Bonnie, with whom Lowe would travel the world, having, as he described it, “a wonderful time.”

      The two’s love was on display during Wednesday’s vow renewal ceremony, as Lowe serenaded and danced with his wife, who uses a wheelchair.

      Lowe said in his mind, making a marriage last comes down to one fact.

      “You’ve just got to be yourself.”

    Shore artists drawn to the Wanamaker Eagle

    OCEAN CITY, N.J. — When coming up with the theme for the June invitational art exhibition at the Ocean City Arts Center, president Jack Devine knew he didn’t want lighthouses, dunes, or jetties.

    “That’s the last thing we want,” Devine said. “We have that out the window. I wanted something else.”

    And so, naturally, it was just a short hop of a wave from a beach landscape to a theme about Wanamakers.

    Wanamakers? “I had this idea of celebrating Wanamakers,” he said, “because so many people in the area have a connection to the store.”

    Funny thing, though: By settling on an “I Remember Wanamakers” theme to evoke memories of the bygone Philadelphia institution, Devine ended up with a lot of paintings of something that is actually found (in increasing numbers, by the way) at the Jersey Shore — eagles.

    As in the phrase “Meet me at the Eagle,” the landmark 2,500-pound bronze sculpture in the grand court of the 1911 building at 13th and Market Streets (now Macy’s) that so many people remember so expansively and poignantly.

    And so Devine got Granny and Me at the Eagle, by Frances Huges, a sweet, nostalgic painting of a little boy and his grandma at the Eagle with a Christmas tree in the background.

    He got Lance Balerson’s Eagle, Organ and John Wanamaker Equals Philadelphia.

    He got Where Shall We Meet?, a pencil-and-watercolor work by Jill DiRienzo, 91, who noted, “Meeting friends at the Eagle was a weekly must. Wednesdays after work, it was two blocks from my job, and the thought of dinner in the Tea Room was worth waiting for.”

    And there is one by Merryl Cool called Mannequins Meet at the Eagle.

    Glancing around the gallery at the Arts Center (on the second floor of the Library/Aquatic Center/Arts Center building at 1735 Simpson Ave.), you might think for a moment you were in fact at a naturalist exhibition. But just for a moment. What you’re really looking at is the shared experience of memory: How a building, a store, a routine, a landmark of a bygone era still evoke vivid emotions.

    Chuck Law’s painting of the Eagle is titled Still Proud.

    “I did get a lot of eagles,” Devine said. “There are several of the Eagle, but that was a natural focal point. Like little Eddie [in a painting by Ed Wismer, Eddie Waiting to Meet Mother at the Eagle], I spent a lot of time waiting for my mother at the Eagle.”

    The exhibition, which has a Meet the Artist event Friday evening from 7 to 8:30, is not all eagle. Several works pay tribute to the architecture of the building at 13th and Market, designed by architect Daniel Burnham and opened in 1911, and to the organ, and to glimpses of the building from various vantage points.

    Ellen Gavin, a Millville-based artist who once worked as a salesgirl at Wanamakers, said, “I knew I didn’t want to do the Eagle.” Instead, she painted a street scene, with figures that look as if they came from the fashion catalogs of the ’40s, ’50s, and ’60s, with long umbrellas, set against hauntingly pink reflective light, walking past the Wanamakers building, identified only by the J.W. insignia.

    “What I really was thinking about is the fashion aspect,” Gavin said, “why people really went. They went because they had all the wonderful fashion in Philadelphia. I went through old fashion photography to be inspired by figures. I know it doesn’t look like anything else there. I know it doesn’t have an Eagle.”

    She said when she was done with the painting, she realized she had evoked a past generation, in a Mad Men or Pan Am kind of sensibility. “Every generation feels like the past generation was more glamorous,” she said. “I love the way those women are dressed, with long umbrellas.”

    Barbara Rosin created a work based on the Crystal Tea Room and its gracious living traditions, but wrote a note observing that today’s version would feature “a young girl checking her messages as she sits with her old relatives.”

    “For me, there’s sadness and nostalgia at this reflection of what change has wrought in this remembrance of teas past.”

    Shirley Hawthorne chose to paint From the Bridal Department, a picture of her wedding dress. (That aspect of Wanamakers caught me in an unexpected pang of remembrance. I never met anyone at the Eagle, but I did, in fact, get my wedding dress at Wanamakers. The salesperson even hand-made my satin gloves.)

    One morning this week, Bob and Barbara Joachim of Philadelphia were at their summer home in Ocean City and stopped up to see the exhibition.

    “It brings back memories,” said Barbara.

    “We used to meet at the Eagle,” said Bob.

     

    For more information, visit www.oceancityartscenter.org or call 609-399-7628. Contact Amy Rosenberg at 215-854-2681 or arosenberg@phillynews.com, or follow on Twitter @amysrosenberg.

     

    Choosing The Right Wedding Gown For Your Body Type

    There are so many gorgeous bridal gowns you can choose from to wear on your big day, but picking a wedding gown isn’t simply about picking a style or design you love. It is so important to pick a dress that suits your body type and accentuates your figure. Most likely, you’re the only one that notices what you consider to be flaws but it’s important to feel confident in front of all your guests. Here’s a guide on how you can choose the right dress for your body type. Remember to always give different silhouettes a try; sometimes you’ll find yourself falling in love with one that you least expect!

    All gowns pictured below by Love, Yu

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    • If you have narrow shoulders, make them look broader with an off-
      shoulder/portrait piece. On the contrary, if you find your shoulders to be too broad, stay away from this silhouette.

    • To accentuate an hourglass figure (if you’ve got it, flaunt it, much like Jennifer Lopez does!), mermaid or trumpet silhouette gowns are great!

    • For brides who are conscious of their arms looking flabby, pick pieces with short or long sleeves to conceal them.

    • If you want to hide your hips, wear A-line or ball-gown silhouettes instead of anything that clings.

    • If you have a stick straight figure, check out pieces that will add volume at the hip area coupled with a defined waist. Adding a belt or sash to define your waist will also help.

    • If you find your scapula/clavicle (top of your chest) bony, consider boat or high necklines to cover it up.

    • The above tips are just a general rule of thumb, it’s important to try on as many pieces in different silhouettes as possible, you may be surprised by the most unlikely pieces, depending on the overall design and cut which will differ from designer to designer!

    TopTablePlanner Now Fully Compatible With The Apple iPad

    TopTablePlanner on a laptop and iPad

    TopTablePlanner in use on a laptop and iPad

    Since many wedding planners and venue coordinators now regularly use an iPad as a useful tool, the new compatibility which TopTablePlanner offers will be a very welcome update.

    Leeds, West Yorkshire (PRWEB UK) 7 June 2012

    TopTablePlanner, the popular online tool for event seating planning, is now fully compatible with the Apple iPad. This means that wedding planners and venue coordinators are now able to create, edit and print a seating plan on the go, wherever they are. This new update now allows for even greater convenience and accessibility from an online tool already used in over 70 countries around the world.

    Anyone looking to create a seating plan for a wedding or other event can now do so using almost any platform, including PC, Mac, iPad, touchscreen tablets, and mobile phones. In fact TopTablePlanner is now the only online seating planning tool in the world which offers this degree of versatility and convenience.

    The new updated version of the software which now offers full iPad support still offers the convenience of having the seating plans on a central online server, which means that they can be accessed from anywhere at any time. A wedding seating plan created at home on a PC can now easily be accessed, edited, shared and printed using an iPad, tablet PC or mobile phone whilst on the move.

    Adam Leyton, Founder of TopTablePlanner remarked: “Since many wedding planners and venue coordinators now regularly use an iPad as a useful tool, the new compatibility which TopTablePlanner offers will be a very welcome update.”

    Because TopTablePlanner is so simple and easy-to-use, this additional compatibility means that couples can create and edit their own seating plans at home, editing them as necessary when they meet up with their wedding planner. Although other drag and drop seating plan software facilities are available online, most are either Flash™ based or do not work properly on a touchscreen device. This means that they are not compatible with Apple products such as the iPad and iPhone. As the popularity of tablet computers continues to grow, TopTablePlanner believe that this new update reflects the changing way in which people are using technology, especially in the field of venue coordinating and wedding planning.

    One of the advantages of TopTablePlanner compared to other seating planning tools is that there is no software to download. The entire application is online, and can be accessed using any web browser. This means that it can be accessed instantly using any device connected to the Internet, including PCs, Macs, iPad and other tablet computers, iPhones and other touchscreen mobile phones. As well as there being nothing to download, there is no need to worry about losing data either as all draft and finished seating plans are automatically saved online, accessible at any time, and from anywhere in the world. This significantly helps to improve the collaboration which is often required when designing and agreeing the seating for a wedding or other event.

    Users can begin using TopTablePlanner by simply importing their guest list, adding, rearranging and adjusting tables within the room, and dragging and dropping guests’ names into suitable locations. In addition to printing large, high-quality seating plans for display at the venue, and for distribution to venue coordinators and catering staff, TopTablePlanner is also able to print place cards which can then be placed around the room to help guests locate their seat easily.

    In a recent survey of wedding guests, the overwhelming majority agreed that they much prefer having designated seating arrangements as this significantly reduces the chance of any potential problems. It is more often the case that not all guests invited to a wedding will know each other, which is why it is more helpful for the Bride and Groom, in partnership with their wedding planner, to design a seating plan which will enable all guests to relax and enjoy the occasion fully. It is hoped that this new update to provide full iPad compatibility will help make this process even more convenient than before.

    Notes:

    An AirPrint compatible printer is required in order to print plans directly from an iPad or iPhone.

    TopTablePlanner was first launched in 2007, since when it has been used to help plan the seating for thousands of events in over 70 countries worldwide. A completely free trial is available, with full access costing just £10 or $20 for a six month license.

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    Livermore interfaith nuptials set for Sunday

    LIVERMORE — Sometimes the best way to get to know your neighbors is to throw a little party and let everyone meet and mingle.

    That’s the idea behind “Three Weddings and a Reception,” a multicultural wedding event at which clergy from three different faiths will perform demonstration ceremonies. Following the Protestant, Reform Jewish and Muslim nuptials, guests will be invited to ask questions and learn about the varied rites and customs.

    The event will be held June 10 at the Veteran’s Memorial Building in Livermore, and is hosted by Interfaith Interconnect, a combined group of clergy and lay people from Dublin, Pleasanton and Livermore. The idea for the group originated with Abdul Awwal, an engineer with the National Ignition Facility at Lawrence Livermore Laboratory. Awwal has organized other cultural diversity programs at the lab, and began brainstorming ideas to reach a wider audience.

    “The idea is to have dialogue about the things people don’t usually talk about, and to create an atmosphere where you can clear up misconceptions,” he said.

    Awwal eventually discussed his idea with others, including Holocaust refugee Ruth Gasten, who speaks with local groups about her experience fleeing Germany with her family in 1939. A first program on the varied holiday traditions of different faiths was followed by a plan to expand the idea.

    “We started talking about doing an ongoing series, wondering how can we get people together to

    start knowing each other and to stop being afraid of one another,” Gasten said. “What we’re trying to do is to just have some interfaith learning events … there is so much ignorance and misunderstanding. I know there are problems all over the world, but I’d like to make the place I live a more peaceful, welcoming place.”

    Today, Interfaith Interconnect’s committee is made up of lay people and clergy from congregations including United Christian, First Presbyterian, Asbury United Methodist and Unitarian Universalist churches in Livermore, and the Muslim Community Center of the East Bay and Congregation Beth Emek in Pleasanton.

    “From a big perspective, we see religious violence all around the world,” said Rev. Lucas Hergert of Unitarian Universalist, who will emcee the wedding event. “I see this as a small way to begin to heal some of those divides.

    “I hope we can begin to see the complexities and differences in these traditions, recognize the beauty of those differences and have a way of conversing with our friends and neighbors in these different faiths in a better way.”

    The simple act of learning about another culture’s rituals and traditions — and talking to those involved — can make a world of difference, said Abdul Awwal.

    “People here are very open-minded and very willing to listen,” he said. “When people have the opportunity to talk … many things can be cleared up with a cup of tea.

    “You can then see there is no barrier between us,” he added. “We’re just being human with each other.”

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    “Three Weddings and a Reception” will be held 7 to 9 p.m. Sunday at the Veteran’s Memorial Building, 522 South L St. in Livermore. The event is free, but registration is required at http://threeweddings.eventbrite.com. There is a suggested donation of $5 per person or $10 per family. In lieu of cash, those attending may bring a vegetarian appetizer or dessert to share. For details, email questions to interfaith.interconnect@gmail.com.